Things I have been accused of, but which I don't understand.

[vivariumvivariumsvivaria]

Anyone able to help me translate these phrases I was accused of by a person I like and respect and did not regard as a goady fucker until this morning?

"you are a transphobe" :
I think this means "does not agree with everything any trans person says or has ever said"

"you are a bigot":
I think this means that I believe I have something in common with any person who has XX chromosomes, and I believe I am different to every person who has XY chromosomes, and that those are terrible beliefs.

"transwomen are women"
I think this means that I am to ignore the fact that transwomen's biology is not exactly the same as mine.

"you are old fashioned and conservative"
I think this means that my desire to have my legal rights to single sex spaces in order to protect my privacy, dignity and safety is not hip.

"everyone talks about you behind your back"
I think this means that I am surrounded by chicken-livered-cowards who are too unsure of their convictions to actually have a conversation with me because, deep down, they know I am right.

Anyone able to confirm or deny? I genuinely don't understand why I am a terrible person for believing the evidence of my own eyes - female and male people are not exactly the same, some female people are harmed by some male people, all female people have felt threatened by some male people at some point, millions of female people are being harmed because of their sex right now at this very moment, and just FUCK RIGHT OFF, I AM ENTITLED TO HOLD OPINIONS YOU SANCTIMONIOUS ARSE.

PS. what about the transmen and NB identified females? Why do they never get a mention in any lecture from a wokey wokester?

Totally Vivariums,

However, you are in good company. Whenever I meet someone who seems to be questioning gender evangelism, I direct them to this forum. The regular posters on here have the best arguments.

I just recently got banned from a forum. Another user called me transphobic and a bigot. And I’ve been permanently banned under the bigoted/discriminatory views rule.
It was a conversation about the LGB Alliance who the whole forum hate.
So I hear ya. It doesn’ feel very nice to be called those things.

everyone talks about you behind your back
I would talk about you behind your back if I had the guts, but I want to strengthen my case and hurt you and this is a quick way to do both.

@Shedbuilder

I've reached the stage now where, when someone says this to me, I raise an eyebrow and smile to myself, because the whole dodgy edifice is falling apart and I suspect that before long the speaker will be denying ever having believed in it. A couple of times recently I've said to people 'I want you to remember this conversation because I'm going to pick it up with you in a couple of years time. Don't forget what you've just said' And then I précis it back to them. It's not intended to be alarming but I think a couple of them have been a bit spooked.

I love this. I do this in my head all the time. I am not going to forget the people who supported this fuckery.