@NiceGerbil
I don't think you wrote that did you, it was someone else.
Anyway.
You're conflating sex and gender id I think?
Female is sex. Even most (not all!) trans activists agree on that. The ones who are born without a penis. The vulva people.
Sex role/ stereotype is societal. Changes over time. And is different all over the world. They are enforced to varying degrees but are enforced. Those who don't conform are usually seen to be unusual/ different.
I'm not sure what you mean by complicated. Sounds like you might have an internal sense of gender? Dunno.
Our biology is the reason for our oppression around the world and through history. Female is the ones born with a vulva who the vast majority of the time get periods boobs and can get pregnant. No more, no less.
No, I am not conflating sex and gender. Nor am I denying that there are two sexes. Nor do I have an internal sense of gender. I obviously expressed myself very poorly because I wanted to say that I precisely do
not have such a sense.
My point was this: Trans women claim to know what it is to be a woman. They have an internal sense of their gender/sex. Now, I have been female, man and boy, for 62 years, a woman for a large chunk of that.. and I haven't the foggiest idea what they are talking about. I can self-identify as female because of my genetic make-up (and, in my case, because I have all the right junk in all the right places). This has not, however, allowed me to build up an inner sense of womanhood. Where does theirs come from? Clearly—or clearly to us—from gender roles in the society in which they have grown up, the gender roles assigned to the sex they don't belong to.
At the same time, I think I believe that the interplay of sex and gender is more complex than you do (i.e. between standing and occurrent individual physiological and psychological states, and societal groups of various sizes, purposes, prestige, interrelations with other groups). It can't be an accident that 97% of violent criminals in the US and UK are male, say. Testosterone! we cry. And yet in hunter-societies, while sneaking-fucking certainly goes on (men who "buy" sex with a woman not their partner in return for a larger share of game the man has brought home; hence there's competition for larger prey, which doesn't benefit the group as a whole), rape is rare, as are brawling, fighting, and murder. Why? We get one gender role (sneaky fucking) and not another (mayhem) in the same group (young healthy males).
Take another example: woman's bodies are changed long-term by motherhood. What does that wash of hormones do to the brain, then? Women abandon their kids far less often than men do. Is that just the internalized touchy-feely nurturing gender role at work on the women who stick around? Or society's external rewards and punishments? Does biology play no part? All all? I think these are genuine questions.
That's all I mean. Nothing sinister, I assure you.