I was an ally too, very much on the side of being kind and inclusion.
But discovered that those same kindnesses aren't applied to me and I'm expected to ignore material reality. So no, I won't move over. No, I won't blindly sign away my rights. I'll happily support the creation of third spaces, new categories, specific provision. I'll vociferously defend the right of everyone to be gender non conforming and to love whoever they want to love. But I won't be complicit in women's erasure.