I think you'll find that an estrogen puberty does typically affect the amount of fat stored in the buttocks. Surprised you don't know this.
So my friend with a really skinny bum (but wide hips) is less of a woman than me? She has a female pelvis that is specifically designed to pass a large head sized object through (three in fact), with a handy ligament feature at the front which softens to allow some expansion for birth. Male people don't have the ligament softening superpower that makes ladies ankles go a bit weak and wobbly during pregnancy, hence we are advised not to wear high heels.
I didn't put on any excess weight at puberty but my hips suddenly got wider - that was a shock! Shiz - it isn't putting on a bit of fat that is a signifier of female puberty - it is the entire development of the female skeleton in a way that is different to the male skeleton. That cannot be induced with cross-sex hormones - we are a lot more complicated than that.
Female Pelvis Adjusts for Child-Bearing Years.
A team of researchers led by Marcia Ponce de León at the Anthropological Institute of the University of Zurich has gained new insights. Using computed tomographic data, they tracked pelvic development from birth to old age and found that until puberty, male and female pelves are similar in width. With the onset of puberty, the male pelvis remains on the same developmental trajectory, while the female pelvis develops in an entirely new direction, becoming wider and reaching its full width around the age of 25-30 years. From the age of 40 onward, the female pelvis then begins to narrow again.
A male pelvis is shaped quite differently for obvious reasons. Note below that the differences are so pronounced that is seen to be the most reliable factor for determining sex in a skeleton.
The female sacrum is wider, shorter, and less curved, and the sacral promontory projects less into the pelvic cavity, thus giving the female pelvic inlet (pelvic brim) a more rounded or oval shape compared to males. The lesser pelvic cavity of females is also wider and more shallow than the narrower, deeper, and tapering lesser pelvis of males. Because of the obvious differences between female and male hip bones, this is the one bone of the body that allows for the most accurate sex determination.
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