@StellaAndCrow
Is the only way to know you have a gender identity if you are dysphoric and it doesn't "match"? Do any people that aren't dysphoric have a gender identity?
Is it something that everyone has, or is it something only some people have? Thanks.
It SHOULD be one of those things that every individual knows for themselves. For example (and there will be many more examples)
Woman A: is female, all the stereotypes, all the womanly things in socoety, and it matches her biology. She may love make up, wearing pink, baking cakes, being a house wife, all sorts of 'feminine' things.
Woman B: is female but doesn't really like the gender stereotypes so she rejects the idea that she must conform to scietal norms for woman, maybe that means she won;t wear make up, wear a skirt, speak without swearing, work in a less physically taxing job. She may also choose to do any of the 'feminine' things but does so because they are things to be done, she likes, are part of life. But that is up to her!
Woman C: Is female and goesn't give a thought to gender, until she feels the patriachal squeeze to her life: the male hand on her bum, being passed over for a promotion, finding our she is paid less for the same job, etc. She may also choose to do any of the 'feminine' things but does so because they are things to be done, she likes, are part of life. But that is up to her!
Some of those women will have fully free choices, some won't, but they should!
Gender is a social construct. It is sometimes indistinguishable from what is hard wired into us as humans as it is often based on that innate humanit, just magnified to become a social norm.
A mother being primary carer for example. You can see how that is essential for life - breastfeeding for one thing. You can see how emergent societies built themselves around that need, kep the babies alive or die out. You can then see how, when humans evolved further, that it became a sign of wealth, for women not to have to work, a sign of power for men to be the 'bread winner'! And then you can see how that becomes something to rail against when societies become as advanced as we are.
And once you understand that you can see how ludicrous it is to insist that TWAW or TMAM. They aren't. Humans cannot change sex. They just REALLY want to live in the gender stereotypes of the opposite sex. Dysphoria or choice? Doesn't really matter. They do so if they wish. What they cannot do is try to change the material world around them!