Sigh. As i explained earlier. I did not post about my missing child on here. A close friend of mine did (BoF actually; in fact this time 2 years ago i was at her wedding, so hi to anyone on here who was there with me) she messaged me to say she’d put a post on here with his description on, and a link to the police’s posts about him, so that people would be looking for him countrywide. I immediately messaged her back and said that’s lovely of you but remove it please because this will happen. Then both of us emailed mn towers and the thread was deleted.
So you can stop picking holes in my parenting/argument re that. Especially since it turns out i was right.
I knew he had run away as he has done it before. The note he left saying ‘i have run away again’ was also a big clue. There’s always more going on than the police let on. For obvious reasons.
The police were aware of his trans status so if the image that haunts my nightmares, that a couple of you seem very keen to repeat and repeat with a little salacious thrill in your posts had happened, no delay and confusion would have occurred.
After two days of being on the run, my child had had enough and used his debit card to buy something, knowing it would trigger an alert to his dad. The police went and got him. Publicising his trans status would just have alerted all the local ‘people who don’t care how someone identifies when it comes to raping and murdering girls’ to the fact that a vulnerable female sexed child was out and about, and have given them an ‘in’ to approach him and groom him, as well as significantly reducing the likelihood that he would have done what he did and decided to come home.
I cannot believe i am having to argue with people about whether what this hate account did was wrong or not, you lot are really showing your arses over this.
Numicon you have had several posts deleted on this thread so stop acting so puzzled about how hateful you are. I thought the three strikes policy applied but obviously not in this case. So give yourself a pat on the back and feel good about it, mn obviously is right behind your transphobia.
I find it really insulting and a further demonstration of how parents of trans kids are treated on here by people asking me what prison i’d like my kid to go to, given that he hasn’t committed a crime, but i’ll answer it anyway. I would like him to go to whichever estate was best for his mental health at the time. Now before you all throw yourselves a hooray, gotcha party, let me explain something. It’s possible to treat two people in the same social category (boy) differently, because in the world outside of here, nuance exists. Let me demonstrate. I have two nephews, both are male, both are children. One has a motorbike and a girlfriend who he is sexually active with, the other doesn’t. This is because one is 17 and the other is 8. But they’re both children! Crazy right? Does this somehow render the meaning of the word ‘child’ invalid? No of course it doesn’t. Because out here in Nuance Land, people can be in the same class descriptor (in this case child) and yet still be subject to different rules depending on different circumstances. I don’t think we should kick 17 year olds out of the ‘child’ club because it protects them against grooming and exploitation at places like college and hobbies. They’re also shit at handling their drink. Yet somehow we manage to run a world where when different circumstances apply, so do different rules. I believe this is also possible for the people we call women and men. So that ‘if you think it’s Ok to call trans women women you’re automatically in favour of putting intact male rapists in women’s prisons’ won’t wash with me. It’s like saying ‘if you think 17 yr olds are legally children that means you’re in favour of toddlers joining the army’ ie fucking ridiculous, and makes zero sense in a world amply set up to accommodate nuance.