Its honestly amazing how much traction “Ah, that’s what you say, but I know what you really think” gets, and how much work it does.
I can emphasise till I’m blue (or red) in the face how I’ve never voted for anyone to the right of the libdems, that I abhor racism, that I have no time at all for anti-choicers, that anti semitism sickens me, that I am a dyed in the wool atheist who thinks evangelicals are bonkers, that I believe in progressive taxation, the welfare state etc etc and align with the right on pretty much nothing...but none of it would ever be good enough, because I believe that biological sex matters, and all the rest just flows from that. I must be right wing, therefore racist and all the rest.
It’s idiotic, it’s puerile, and I’d be embarrassed if that was the level I was debating at. It draws no distinction at all between a Proud Boy taking a pipe bomb to the Capitol and me - a gentle lefty who’s never so much as got a speeding ticket.
If you asked him if he was a racist, he’d say “Hell, yeah!”, and if you asked me, I’d say “fuck off, of course I’m not”, but apparently, I’m lying and he’s not?
Madness. You can’t seriously think this. And yet, OP, you’re right that a lot of people are seemingly unembarrassed to be this dim, like Arthur and Laurie upthread, and it worries me.