If your partner posted this on Facebook?

[HaventCriedThisMuchForYears]

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How am I supposed to ever believe I’m attractive to him again?

I’m sure he finds you attractive. I’d be more worried about the lack of respect to be honest.

TBH I like most others here would find this in very bad taste .Some men seem to have a very puerile sense of whats "funny" .I would point these out to him ,and ask that he deletes them ASAP! I am sure he does find you attractive (and that you are!)May also let him know its not 1970 and we are not in an episode of Benny Hill FFS!

But I can never look like that. I’m not 25, I’ve had kids, I don’t have breast implants

Is that the main thing you’re worried about with this, looking attractive to him?

I wouldnt be with someone who posted things like that. If they upset you, why are you?

He would be my ex asap as I can't stand misogynist nor men who treat/think of women as a piece of meat

Do you still find him attractive? I'd say that's the bigger problem.

@HaventCriedThisMuchForYears

How am I supposed to ever believe I’m attractive to him again?

Is he aware of how much this has upset you? Or did he already know? If he knew already it is a distinct lack of respect (it is lacking respect for women anyway) and you need to speak to him about it.

I doubt it has much to do with whether he finds you attractive but he should care that it made you feel that way. Perhaps you should ask yourself now, do I find someone who thinks posting this is fine attractive? That is up to you, I find disrespect for women the opposite of attractive. I find it repulsive but that's me - you clearly aren't comfortable with this, make your feelings known. His response to that would be telling.

@Clymene

I'd think he was 14 or of exceptionally limited intelligence

If he was 14 and of exceptionally limited intelligence.

How am I supposed to ever believe I’m attractive to him again?
Seriously?

@HaventCriedThisMuchForYears

How am I supposed to ever believe I’m attractive to him again?

I don't think that is the issue. There's nothing wrong with looking at the photograph and thinking the young woman is attractive. I know for example my husband thinks Kristen Stewart is very attractive. He knows I think the Toms Hiddleston and Hardy are very attractive. None of these people have any relevance to our attraction to each other.

The issue here is the puerile objectification; the sub In Betweener sniggering. It's deeply unpleasant.

Love one of the replies - “I don’t care about the straw...” the irony was wasted on that one then
I would say it was posted by a twat in their early twenties who has gormless mates and they wouldn’t be my partner.

Trust your gut feeling. My gut says pornsick limpdick loser. This is disrespectful to his wife and any women friends and relatives on his friends list. I would hope I did not have children with this man. You deserve someone you respect, not someone who broadcasts his obvious porn consumption and his wandering lust for other women to your friend circle on Facebook, oblivious to how pathetic and unintelligent this make him seem to anyone who respects women.

I would say it was posted by a twat in their early twenties who has gormless mates and they wouldn’t be my partner

Yes, exactly. It's not thinking that another woman is attractive which is the problem, it's the gormless, charmless, moronic way of doing so.

He’d no longer be my partner! So disrespectful, stuff like this makes my skin crawl, it’s awful.

BIL posted something a little more crude in the family WhatsApp. DH responded "your sisters are looking at that and are all changing how they think about you"

BIL protested it was just a joke, DH pointed out that only he had responded... they normally spend an hour or so laughing at each other's daft posts and BIL removed himself from the group!

Had DH made a different response we would have had words!

How are you ever going to find him attractive again?

Why is your relationship based on him being the chooser and you being the one who might be lucky enough to be chosen?

@CuriousaboutSamphire

BIL posted something a little more crude in the family WhatsApp. DH responded "your sisters are looking at that and are all changing how they think about you"

BIL protested it was just a joke, DH pointed out that only he had responded... they normally spend an hour or so laughing at each other's daft posts and BIL removed himself from the group!

Had DH made a different response we would have had words!

Yes, there is one guy in our friendship group who sometimes makes laddish jokes a bit like this. All the other guys laugh at him. They say he just doesn't really get how to do banter without looking like a misogynist wanker and isn't that sad?

Yes its bad taste but I see the reverse pop up on Facebook. Half naked muscle man holding a puppy or some other thing. Same sort of 'humour'. No one seems to think that's bad x

I’d think this shit is the same reason why some men think it’s perfectly acceptable to have a wank whilst on a work Zoom call. It’s just different levels of the same sexist shit.

Hi op. Social media is full of all kinds of crap. Wondering how long you have been together... Please don't measure yourself against this picture. I looked at the pictures of the men commenting so sad

@WingingItSince1973

Yes its bad taste but I see the reverse pop up on Facebook. Half naked muscle man holding a puppy or some other thing. Same sort of 'humour'. No one seems to think that's bad x

And that's relevant because...?

Is he quite a childish bloke? There are some who never seem to get beyond the playground banter phase - even in their forties.

Just let him know you think it is infantile and inappropriate.

How am I supposed to ever believe I’m attractive to him again?

Shouldn't the question be 'how can i ever be attracted to him again?'.