"My child is transgender" or, count the number of stereotypes...

[WeeBisom]

www.parents.com/parenting/my-transgender-child-this-is-how-i-know/

This article has to be one of the most craziest ones I've read yet. Things that are apparently 'masculine' and a sign that your girl is really a boy: finding farts funny, Pokemon, wanting to play baseball, watching wrestling, wanting short hair, zombies, Minecraft, mud, superheroes, selecting 'boy' pieces in a board game, having boy friends, wanting to wear a Transformers t shirt, Mario...

Also, can anyone with children tell me how realistic the initial conversation with the four year old child is? Do four year olds even ask what death is? And would a four year old even be able to grasp (let alone pronounce) the concept of reincarnation?

I think what makes me angry about these articles about trans kids, and their endless sea of stereotypes, is that could have been me. This child sounds a lot like me - even down to the funny interaction in the clothing store with her insisting on trying on boy's clothes. Except my mother didn't make a big deal of it and just let me wear what I liked. It's chilling that if I was a child today I could have been put down a lifelong path of medicalisation just because I liked dinosaurs and Power Rangers.

My dd usually had boys clothes and often a short haircut, and yes, even wanted to be a boy, from the age of about 3. Ignored dolls, climbed trees. I have to admit to being a bit worried, especially in the last few years. We had a row because I wouldn’t let her have a binder (she hated her bust). But she is nearly 16 now and seems more settled with who she is- a sparky, thoughtful girl. They are saturated with stereotypes from a very young age.

@NearlyGranny Good point about the shadows. I found that odd, but I liked that he was being supportive of his son by dressing up too.

That is a heart breaking story. I couldn’t finish it. Poor child doomed to conversion surgery, infertility, physical and mental scarring, a twenty fold increase in suicide risk, and on and on.

I think that would have been me years ago as I am a gender nonconforming girl/woman. Always have been. And being Bhuddist, I know I was a man in some past lives too.

Poor child, not being allowed to be nonconforming, she will be snipped and cut until she conforms physically to gender stereotypes.