Wearing a bra

[charlotte2129]

Since having the implant put in my boobs have hurt like CRAZY!!! I'm waiting to hear back from the doctors as all contraceptives do this to me. But wearing a bra hurts so much and is really uncomfortable.

Not wearing a bra is so much more comfortable for me at the minute but I'm worried to leave the house without one on. If I saw another person not wearing a bra it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.. but I know other people aren't so accepting and are judgmental on the topic.

What are people's experiences leaving the house without a bra? Have you been judged and what do you all think?? Sorry if this seems like a ridiculous question, I just need some girly advice lol. Please no hate!!

@YetAnotherSpartacus

OP - some posters think that you are a male to female trans person, or fantasising about being one. I've seen that you have other posts so I am not assuming this. But that explains the comments re jiggling and breast scars and so on.

Haha I'm not a transgender. I'm a 20 year old mum to a 1 year old lol. Wish I never posted this thread now with the responses I'm getting🤦🏼‍♀️

Here are some other bra threads showing it is a feminist issue!

www.mumsnet.com/SearchArch?mustmatch=bras&dontmatch=&nickname=&src_displ_option=s_t_d_t&fromDate=01%2F01%2F18&toDate=10%2F08%2F20&topicmode=chs&chosentops=5365

Although dont answer your particular question but might have useful links.

If you feel comfortable without a bra on then go out without a bra on and other people can mind their own business.
If you'd feel self-conscious about going out without a bra on then there are many crop tops / bralette/ sports bras options that you may find comfortable.

[quote CuriousaboutSamphire]@charlotte2129 If you go to your original post and report it, ask it to be moved to somewhere more appropriate, you might get more helpful advice.

The Feminist boards are a bit 'red in tooth and claw' for any kind of 'girly chat'.

I've already reported it for you but they do like you to do it yourself![/quote]
Thankyou xx

@stumbledin

Here are some other bra threads showing it is a feminist issue!

www.mumsnet.com/SearchArch?mustmatch=bras&dontmatch=&nickname=&src_displ_option=s_t_d_t&fromDate=01%2F01%2F18&toDate=10%2F08%2F20&topicmode=chs&chosentops=5365

Although dont answer your particular question but might have useful links.

I'll look now, thankyou xx

I really do think these posters who decide their role is to be the tone or politics police actually imply the rest of us are too stupid to work out what may be going on.

If you think a thread is not started in good faith just ignore it.

It is so off putting particularly to newer mumsnetters who haven't been made to feel they must talk about things in a set way.

@stumbledin

I really do think these posters who decide their role is to be the tone or politics police actually imply the rest of us are too stupid to work out what may be going on.

If you think a thread is not started in good faith just ignore it.

It is so off putting particularly to newer mumsnetters who haven't been made to feel they must talk about things in a set way.

Omg thankyou for understanding!!! It can come across in a negative way and makes you feel a bit daft for just using this site for what it's there for..

I mainly don’t wear one, but I’m
a) pretty flat chested
b) much older than the OP
c) don’t care if people can see my nipples

I work in a school though, so will wear one if my clothes are thin (although often a vest is fine. I also have pierced nipples which show through which probably makes me look a bit odd- maybe why no one comments.

Don’t worry OP, it’s an OK question. It’s good to question things like this, even if it began for a medical reason.

My breasts aren’t huge (B) but still regular bras just aren’t that comfortable. I’d recommend trying to find one of the following: 1) simple cloth nursing bras 2) soft material sport bra 3) just go w/o. If that’s not enough support for you perhaps some of the other women can help.

Sorry, I wasn't sure which board to post on as I'm new to this.. x

Not the wrong board - it’s just that you will get different responses on different boards.

It’s a good question and I’m interested in the answers, but I think you will get a broader range of replies on style and beauty.

I don't wear one, I've never had any reason to think anyone has judged me - not seen any clipboards or scorecards or the like.

If someone HAS judged me for not wearing a bra, it has not impacted on my life one iota.

Surely it depends entirely on how big your boobs are and what you're wearing.

Personally i am FAR less comfortable without support. Even pre-menstrual or in early pregnancy support was more comfortable. I think you need to find bras that are comfortable, you shouldn't suffer physical discomfort for other people's benefit.

I am more comfy without but would feel really self conscious going out without one and no way would go without for work!

Not small yes people would notice.

On another thread there was a woman insisting that any woman could go without a bra at work and no one would notice... What on earth!

Not me, could put somebodies eye out

I don’t wear one at work.

I don't notice whether other women are wearing a bra or not, just be you.

I rarely wear one. I have a couple of thin tops I wear one with, and I wear one for yoga. I am just a A-cup though. I guess I might make a different decision if I were larger - probably it would depend on how comfortable I felt.

How long ago did you have the implant? I think a little time for it to settle is one thing, but if it's going on and on and your breaststroke are still really tender, that's another, and I agree you should go back to your GP. They like long term contraception, but if it's too uncomfortable for you, then maybe you should be thinking about other forms; not all GPs will be keen on this idea. But regardless of whether or not women should wear bras or not, it's generally accepted that we do, so they should feel comfortable, and if contraception means bras which were okay no longer are, then you shouldn't be expected just battle on with a stiff upper lip. Nor sore breasts.

Just chiming in to say that I agree with the PP, you shouldn't be expected to put up with sore boobs. Keep making a fuss with the GP until you find contraception that works for you. And if you can't then put your foot down and insist on a condom. Life's too short for sore boobs.

You totes sound just like the kind of female chick I would like to discuss my girly boobs with. LOL.

Xox

@DDemelza

You totes sound just like the kind of female chick I would like to discuss my girly boobs with. LOL.

Xox

Haha yes! Someone who understands😂😂😂xxx

@highame

Not me, could put somebodies eye out

Omg😂😂😂😂

@twoHopes

Just chiming in to say that I agree with the PP, you shouldn't be expected to put up with sore boobs. Keep making a fuss with the GP until you find contraception that works for you. And if you can't then put your foot down and insist on a condom. Life's too short for sore boobs.

I agree!! I've been asking for it to be taken out since Feb😤

@EBearhug

I rarely wear one. I have a couple of thin tops I wear one with, and I wear one for yoga. I am just a A-cup though. I guess I might make a different decision if I were larger - probably it would depend on how comfortable I felt.

How long ago did you have the implant? I think a little time for it to settle is one thing, but if it's going on and on and your breaststroke are still really tender, that's another, and I agree you should go back to your GP. They like long term contraception, but if it's too uncomfortable for you, then maybe you should be thinking about other forms; not all GPs will be keen on this idea. But regardless of whether or not women should wear bras or not, it's generally accepted that we do, so they should feel comfortable, and if contraception means bras which were okay no longer are, then you shouldn't be expected just battle on with a stiff upper lip. Nor sore breasts.

I'm only a small B cup so maybe I could get away with it like you.

I've had the nexplanon implant since July last year but still having problems, I'm going to definitely have to put my foot down because I've had enough now. Thankyou for your reply! X

When I was a little B cup I didnt wear one or did. It didnt seem to make much difference. Then children and I went from B to C and then D, so wore one for years.
Now, peri / menopausal and its so damned uncomfortable that the majority of the time I dont.
the only times I do it for something formal or if something I want to wear is just not cut for the saggage. But Im likely to rip the damn thing off as soon as I get home.

Still saying your question is valid here, but wonder if a question your reaction to the implant might be worth sharing on the health board. To deal with that aspect, though hope your GP will get back to you soon.