Sorry, need to vent in a woman friendly place. Not expecting any advice - I just don't want some random arsehole to tell me I should take it as a compliment. Because I don't!
So, this shit just happened:
I'm sitting in my kitchen in a conference call (as one does these days ... thanks, COVID) when my door bell rings.
Thinking it might be important, I open my window, headset still on, laptop in hand.
Bloke I've never met in my whole life stands outside, shopping bag in hand, smiles and says:
"Hello, gorgeous, may I come in? I've brought beer and I'm looking for a nice single lady to spend some time with due to corona loneliness!"
I'm reasonably dead pan and respond that, no, this is not an option and close the window.
This is the second time something like it has happened to me in 2 years.
It's fucking terrifying!!! I mean, cat calling, street harrassment and arsehole older colleagues staring at your boobs is bad and intimidating.
But what on the fucking planet makes these men think it's even remotely acceptable to literally ring a total stranger's doorbell and ask to be welcomed for a little business hours shag in exchange for ... fucking beer?
I might be great at keeping a straight face and delivering a "no". But I'm petrified. I'm meant to feel safe in my own 4 walls.
As mentioned, something slightly similar has happened to me before (same residence). It was dark then and I didn't get a good look at the bloke. I did today, in bright daylight. This time, he has a beard, last time he didn't. But beards grow.
I'm really not sure which scenario terrifies me more: it being the same bloke, i.e. having a stranger as a stalker who will occasionally turn up and scare the living daylight out of me, or there being more than one of these arseholes out there.
Sorry for the rant. I'm just really shaken still!