Some people don't like the word 'queer' or 'queering' due to a history of its use as a term of homophobic abuse
Yes, so probably good form not to use it.
However it's being reclaimed as it usefully encompasses a range of nonbinary characteristics in people's identities and relationships
This is gibberish. And as I said above, my 20 yr old hasn't reclaimed it, she thinks it's bloody offensive, so who is doing the reclaiming?
Similarly, when books illustrate the potential for children and their parents to exist outside binary sex stereotypes
There are many, many, many of these types of books in kids lit already. So why does an established tradition, say, of tomboyish girls, need to be 'qu**red' ?
Glorious diversity is a lot more than fucking with heteronormativity for 'qu**r' kicks.