Sort of like my racist Uncle has to realise that he can't do anything about the increasing number of people who arent white or English living in his area.
No, Eyez, your logic is fatally flawed there.
It’s not an exact equivalence by any means, but roughly speaking, Black is to white in terms of power dynamics and historical/ongoing oppression as female is to male.
So by your logic you are actually arguing that Black people should not be entitled to have any spaces, services or awards set aside exclusively for Black people in order to redress the imbalance of power, the corrosive effects of racism. Black people who want “safe spaces” in which to discuss their own experiences of racism or growing up Black in a racist society, without white people present, should not be allowed to do so, by your logic.
Similarly, you would presumably argue that gay men, lesbian women, bisexual people should never be free to gather as a discrete group without the presence of heterosexuals. Disabled people must always include able bodied people who have not experienced any of the issues that disability brings in any conversations they may have. Trades unions must always include members of management in their ranks.
Any oppressed/disadvantaged/minority group must always include people from the group that oppresses/disadvantages them IF those people in the oppressor group “identify” as being part of the oppressed group. That’s how you see it, presumably.
(Actually, one of the proofs that biologically male trans people aren’t an oppressed group of women is that male trans rights activists are not, on the whole, asking for separate spaces etc. If they really felt oppressed by women, they wouldn’t want to be in our spaces, they would want their own. But they don’t.
They want to invade and appropriate ours. Because they’re not a marginalised group of women at all; they may be marginalised relative to other males, but relative to women, they are the oppressors masquerading as the oppressed. Members of the more powerful of the two sex classes trying to break down the boundaries of the less powerful sex.)
So. You have positioned yourself firmly on the side of the existing power holders against those who have less power. Just like lemon, you want those who are already less powerful and more vulnerable to have even less power and be even more vulnerable.
It’s you who’s the bigot on a par with your racist uncle. Well done you.