The disconnect between the public and the power is really jarring with this isn't it
Yes, it is. I understand what you are saying about talking to other people in real life about it. The problem for me is that every single time I've spoken to people in real life they already agree that transwomen are not women and that they shouldn't be allowed in women's spaces. They already agree that transing children is abusive and should be banned. They already agree that most teenagers caught up in this are the latest variant on 'teenagers caught up in social contagion' and akin to anorexics, self harmers etc.
The only time I haven't had complete agreement is when writing to politicians, councils, organisations.
I guess I just live in the land of the terminally 'unwoke'. I'm starting to think that's a blessing.