We’ve had this thread tonight - it got zapped for misgendering.
I am always very careful to try to stick to the, often inconsistent, MN rules. They have generally allowed the use of correct pronouns for men who are obviously mendacious in their intent and abusive in their behaviour, such as Jessica Yaniv.
Surely, with such horrible behaviour when people are freshly grieving, there can be no doubt about Rachel Mckinnon's intent? Surely it would be perverse for MN to insist we pretend he is genuinely trying to live as a woman. His sole purpose appears to be hateful and abusive to women.