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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Bunbury's guide to community disruptors part 4

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BarbaraStrozzi · 13/09/2019 08:33

Thought it was time for another of these. I'll just cut-and-paste the opening of the last thread:

The useful Bunbury Guide to Spotting Community Disruptors is constantly evolving.

The best research and advice is not to engage with community disruptors and trolls. As ever, if you suspect troll activity, report it to MNHQ.

This is a continuation of the first Public Service Announcement thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3438714-Bunbury-s-Public-Service-Announcement-2

Thread 3 was deleted with this note from MNHQ; We're sure there will be a Bunbury 4 around soon, but we'd be grateful if we could draw a line under the issues raised in this thread if there's to be a new one.

If and when you see threads plopped into FWR, especially a curious repeat of well worn topics, maybe check for poster history before engaging.

There are a number of posts/posters/threads that are reproduced on Twitter or Facebook to foment controversy using screen shots & flagging to either MNHQ to have threads or posters deleted. Sometimes, it’s used to approach commissioning editors with ideas for articles. It’s a tiresome tactic that we’ve had several community disruptor posters who themselves post the comments that they then highlight elsewhere as purported evidence of racism, religious intolerance, anti-men sentiments, or transphobia.

Some helpful links can be found in the first posts on thread 2 (linked above) but in essence FermatsTheorem recommended “that in the absence of a block/hide poster button, I suggest the following strategy (given that you're talking to the lurkers).

Do not name check the sealion. Instead, respond to a depersonalised paraphrase:

"It is sometimes erroneously suggested that blah. Blah is wrong for the following reasons (short and pithy). If you need more information re. debunking blah, here's a link."

Then (this next step is important to combat derailment) go back up thread to the last useful contribution to the discussion, make sure you do name check that contributor, and pick up the discussion from that point.”

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Al1Langdownthecleghole · 01/03/2020 21:02

Heavens AIBU is frustrating.

DuLANGMondeFOREVER · 01/03/2020 21:11

It’s got a massive audience though!

Thought I might go bonkers posting ‘SHE’S ISN’T SUING repeatedly, but it must’ve worked because the conversation has moved on

AnyOldSpartabix · 02/03/2020 06:43

Ah DuLANG. I was just reading the same thread and was taking someone at their word, then suddenly realised they were probably lying.

Glad you were on there though. An absolute voice of sanity.

RufustheLanglovingreindeer · 02/03/2020 07:53

Thought I might go bonkers posting ‘SHE’S ISN’T SUING repeatedly

Very sobering thread

But you ‘yelling’ SHES NOT SUING was just awesome

And other people joined in and i would have helped but it took me ages to get to the end and all the moments seemed to have passed

FannyCann · 02/03/2020 08:53

I fell for the phishing test that IT sent out at work.

An email about my pay that happened to coincide with a letter from the tax office changing my tax code. I meant to ring the pay department but was busy so I clicked the link instead...

Anyway I'm more alert to fishing attempts over here now too.

Clymene · 02/03/2020 09:08

My spidey senses tingle whenever holy water is mentioned

Thelnebriati · 05/03/2020 18:50

Quick bump for the weekend.

DuLANGMondeFOREVER · 06/03/2020 00:10

Keira Bell

Woman Flags

Just popping this down somewhere because we don’t need a whole thread on a man...

Sargon, who used to describe himself as an ‘anti feminist’ seems to have been thoroughly radicalised by Posie!

ThePurported · 06/03/2020 00:23

The guy who said to Jess Phillips "I wouldn't even rape you"?
He's got a long way to go and no, he definitely doesn't need his own thread!

DuLANGMondeFOREVER · 06/03/2020 00:34

Yep.

He’s got some of the language wrong (gender essentialist?) and he’s still a dickhead, but his video on Keira is most definitely on her side and is at almost 200,000 views.

The world is truly upside down 🙃🤡

DuLANGMondeFOREVER · 06/03/2020 00:36

He has had a thread, btw, but I’m not bumping it, it can stay in the bowels of Mumsnet!

FemiLANGul · 08/03/2020 13:17

Even now, on this day, they just cant help themselves. Hmm

LynnSchmob · 08/03/2020 13:21

It’s really just tiresome. Male socialisation and with it a sense of entitlement once learned never seems to be forgotten.

Deliriumoftheendless · 08/03/2020 13:22

One of my dogs is unbelievable jealous and will shove the other one out of the way if he gets any attention and force her way in. She’s an absolute arse pain. But she’s just an idiot with an idiotic doggy brain so I feel a bit sorry for her being so needy.

Grown ups, not so bloody much.

ErrolTheDragon · 08/03/2020 13:51

Wouldn't you think a lawyer ought to know the difference between 'attack' and 'self-defence?' I'm not going to engage but one of the questions is bringing me round to the 'repeal the GRA' stance.

Michelleoftheresistance · 08/03/2020 21:07

Just dropping in to ask: is there some sort of club for CDs on a Sunday night, who get their jollies by preventing women talking? And do it while spouting a lot of heroic bull about how they have to be rude, controlling and a pain in the bum for the betterment of.... some vague group of people not on the thread but who might come and be upset . Where do they learn to be this boring?

FGS someone pass the gin.

theflushedzebra · 08/03/2020 22:14

I'm not going to engage but one of the questions is bringing me round to the 'repeal the GRA' stance.

I know exactly what you mean!

ScrimpshawTheSecond · 08/03/2020 22:41

I think IWD is really hard for some ... people who find it incredibly difficult to not be the centre of attention for ten minutes.

ItsLateHumpty · 08/03/2020 22:51

It's like when the kids are little and all you want to do is pee in peace.

At least kids are cute when they're passing you the loo roll and asking why peas are green.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 08/03/2020 22:57

Where do they learn to be this boring?

There's a special school, in order to graduate you need to produce at least one piece of writing so dull that the judges fall asleep while reading it.

DuLANGDuLANGDuLANG · 08/03/2020 23:11

Someone called posted this on the thread about 8 year olds and changing for swimming:

‘if all you sexy moms want someone to keep track of who would and would not touch a penis, well beautiful ladies you're in luck the sexydaddy is here to collate this information.*

Pretty sure no one wants to touch sexydaddy’s penis. No one at all.

Happy International Women’s day, ‘bints’ ‘vipers’ and ‘terves’ 😃

theflushedzebra · 08/03/2020 23:59

Oh my goodness - we're not even safe from the sleaze on this board! They'll be posting dick pics next.

theflushedzebra · 09/03/2020 00:00

Happy IWD wimmin! Lots of love to the adult human females here Wine

ReinstateLangCleg · 14/03/2020 21:45

A curious repeat of well-worn subjects.....

midgebabe · 14/03/2020 21:51

No it's not. The poster hasn't actually said anything yet other than men culpa.m