I am tired of men posing as more open-minded than feminists, when in fact they’re behaving in the exact same way men have always behaved towards women. If you’re a male person telling a female person to be silent about her experiences of gender and power, you’re not only doing feminism wrong, you’re exemplifying the very values you claim to undermine
I recently had a run in with a chap who i regularly deal with in a Professional capacity who i have known and respected for years. I really genuinely thought he was a true feminist ally. Until he started spouting shit about TERFS. I was really gutted as I’d really thought he understood feminism at a fundamental level. That quote right there nails it for me.
In that instant he went from being an ally to yet another man telling me how to think about my experiences. And that stung.