Detroit

[DetroitOtherday]

Hello?

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So looks like today is a bust. I desperately need a hot meal that won't kill me with food allergies. I can't stop crying. This was why I stayed doing what I was doing. Just basic living is impossible in highly urban areas like this. I've nowhere suitable to go Tuesday. I should not have tried this.

Have you got cooking facilities? Can the people providing your accommodation help?

Had to take a risk....no immediate reaction... nervous

Fingers crossed. Glad you've eaten at least.

Yes, had to take a chance. I can't starve. Thank you for caring

I'm so glad you've eaten. Hang in there love, hoping very much there's no reaction

Mild reaction to the food, but could have been worse. I had to eat something!

Wishing you luck and strength today, Detroit. x

Ok lovelies! It's just not possible. I can't find any solution to get in a place. It's full of your usual predators, lunatics, general hateful people emboldened by Trump. I've done my best, but this isn't possible. I did try. I left, I made the best of the campfires and racoons, I did my best to get through winter, survive pandemic and fires, but I can't find a foothold in the city. I'll deteriorate further. So, time to just accept it's not possible. Do you all know how much I've enjoyed your company! Thank you. I've been very tired recently. Exhausted. I'm running on nothing at all. I can't do this. Did i mention you are lovely? I keep an eye, watching you fight the good fight, stay strong, WIN! You are all so brave. All my love! Detroit xxxx hugs xxxx

I'm so sorry this hasn't worked out Detroit, I really am. It is awful what has happened to you. What are you planning as the next step? Is there anything we can do to help?

We are all here rooting for you, Detroit.

I don't think there's any way anyone can help. Full shelters, waiting lists. Very very expensive houseshares, any short term ones seem to be inhabited by predators. Just v shaken up by a guy offering me a place very cheaply....I won't bore you, but don't need to end up scattered across an urban park in black plastic bags. Shudder. I've got a call back from a community line, but ...yeah...can't lovelies. Just really impossibile to get back inside. I thought I had found a poss housemate situation, but no. Seriously this is not interesting stuff. I'm sorry I'm busy drowning, I keep wishing I could help with activism, but see you are all doing fabulously without me. It's so important what you are doing. I'm very upset right now.

Interesting is neither here nor there. You are in need of help and support and somebody out there must be able to provide it. There are many good people in the world, it's just a question of finding them.

Well done on avoiding the dodgy man. Glad your instincts are still protecting you.

If only we were in the US we might be better able to help or help you find support.

And no wonder you are upset, it sounds a very difficult situation.

Clear moments are so short.
There is much more darkness. More
ocean than terra firma. More
shadow than form.

Adam Zagajewski

I'ld have been dead years ago if I had not left. This bought me precious time away from Mr Charming. But it's not sustainable. Esp not in civil unrest and a pandemic. I've been speaking to the right people. But there's so much need, and so few resources. It's not quick enough. And to find a very cheap place quickly in the city ...oy veh! I swear ...... People want money for a room but don't want you in the room

What are your real options right now? What do you most feel is the right way forward right now? Is there anything we can do that would help?

Wishing very much it was possible to bring you tea, cake (carefully fitted to dietary needs) and a hug

And yes, I know you said no there was no help you could think of - it isn't that I'm not listening, it's wanting you to just check again in case.

Sending love to you , Detroit , across the ocean .

There isn't a way i can see. I wish we could have a mumsnet visit too. That would be fun. I've called round shelters again. All full. I've 3 more nights here then...I dunno. If I leave the metro area my availabile possible resources plummet. Disappear. I lose my place on lists, etc. I need to stay in the city limits, but can't find a safe cheap place.

Three more nights. Time enough to find somewhere. Take heart.

Ok you don't have to deal with anything tonight then. Are you warm? Safe? Have you eaten? What can you do right now that would get you feeling a little better?

A MN visit would be lovely, it would need to involve much cake. I don't know if you're a tea or a coffee or a gin person, but we'll stock up plenty of whatever you like best.

Can the org helping you now not give you a little longer?

Rooting for you

I'm so sorry to learn of your situation. I'm afraid I haven't read all of your thread so am not aware of everything that you have gone through.

This may have been said before but is it possible to set up a Just Giving page or something similar. You may not get enough money for rent but maybe enough to get the type of food you need.

Sorry it this ins't helpful.

Just to add that through facebook I was in touch with a woman in the US whose was homeless for some time, and eventually got housing by agreeing to be a carer for someone. And the charity that organised that then found her shared accommodation. And in a few years she now has her own flat. Some of it was very grim (the caring bit) but she got through, and I am just saying this as I hope it gives you hope that maybe a way can be found.

Are there any local women's groups who can offer support, even if only to let you have a shower every now and again and to do laundry etc..

Hope you keep safe, and that everything remains calm tomorrow after the voting closes.

Best wishes

I'd be up to dig a bit for you on a JustGiving page (or similar)
And bugger off MN with the warning stuff, I'm an adult human female and can decide what I want to do with my money!