Alice Roberts? She who sexes dead people by their skeletons? And writes these findings up in her scientific papers? [Hmm]
''How I feel in myself has no bearing on what someone feels. If someone who looks like a man and has XY chromosomes tells me he feels female - I cannot tell her she is ‘wrong’. Would you?''
People feel what they feel but it doesn't make it true or rational. Anorexic women feel overweight, some people with OCD feel that someone may die if they don't complete their ritual, some people with paranioia feel that their tv is sending them messages. These are all very distressing beliefs/fears/feelings but it does immeasurable harm for anyone to reinforce that they are true and valid, and harmless ideas to hold. It is no different for a person who believes they are or should be the opposite sex.
Ah yes, "empathy", heard that one before, too, from a politician. It's nice to be empathetic. But to be truly empathetic, you actually have to recognise the true nature of someone's distress. If that someone is distressed because they are unhappy with their sexed body, you have to recognise that sex is a reality, and that it is dimorphic. There are many, many trans people who understand that.
This is amazingly put realdoctor. And as you say janeskettle..
As well as being spot on with the recognition of sex, it relates to MH really well. My DH is very ill with mental illness and it does him no good whatsoever when he sometimes comes up with bonkers ideas for why are the way they are.. his brain has made a mistake, a misdiagnosis. Actions based on misdagnosis will never give people what they need. I have to gently put him straight if they persist and it hurts his brain (and requires careful doing) but it would be cruel of me to let him in his desperation and illness believe things that are not true and that can never help him (and will make things worse). It would make me weak and unsafe if I would bend reality to suit him and helped him find (much needed) security only in lies. How would he know where sanity was if I and others were so unreliable and inconsistent?
Alice Roberts has always been far too fond of her own visage and making herself the object of the tv show for my liking so although disappointed, I am not 100% surprised. Wants to be popular more than anything. And yes, sells out more vulnerable women.
I wish more mental health professionals would speak out about what is going on underneath.