My husband and I are currently applying for a mortgage using a broker as first time buyers. It's going well, the full application has just gone in and we're very excited. But I'm having a bit of a bad day and this petty little thing just irrationally annoyed me.
My husband has been working away for three months so every single thing has been done by me. Every single email, phonecall and form to complete for the broker has been done by me and I have paid every fee. They have never ever had any contact with my husband.
This morning, I get an email from the solicitors that the broker recommended. The form has been partially filled in by them and who do you think got listed as top billing on the form? My husband. He is 'buyer 1' who's details have all been completed (address, post code, number, email address, DoB, occupation) using the brokers information and I'm 'buyer 2' with literally just my name on the form.
I know, it's petty. I'll hold my hands up and say yes, this is bottom of the barrel stuff. I know, I was in the Army for 6 years having to prove myself everyday simply because I own a vagina. I know there are bigger things to get annoyed about but what really grinds my gears is this tiny everyday sexism that people just either don't notice or brush off.
I have done 100% of this process so I certainly feel like I derserve to have my name as buyer one and to have all of my details on the form so when I first saw it, it was like a hand had reached out and given me a quick slap in the face. Fair enough if the broker didn't tell them they had only been dealing with me and it was just a coincidence my husband is named first with a completed details section. But to only write my name under buyer two and not even bothering to include my details as well?! I know they have my details, the broker sent them over with my husband's! Anyway, will I be wrong to continue my pettiness and scribble out my husband's name and put mine instead?