But it won’t be respectful if, when speaking or writing about me, you call me, as a trans woman, ‘he’
This is past simply being kind and politely accepting someone's choice of pronoun. This has become the thin end of the wedge to women being forced to accept that a man is a woman in every way if he says so and that women may have no boundaries against this. This makes me concerned enough re the assault on women's rights to be increasingly unwilling to play along and enable it, even at this most basic level. The fact is that TW are male. I understand this is a sad and unwanted fact for many TW but it is a fact and a neutral fact. When you begin to make it wrong for people to speak the truth is this a good thing? What about freedom of belief?
or deny my right to use the facilities society has decided I should have, such as my right to use the bathroom of my affirmed gender should I visit premises under your control?
Sigh. Ok. What are you going to do about the women with disabilities, races, cultures, religious faiths, traumas and other reasons why they cannot share facilities with a male regardless of how that male chooses to affirm their gender? What about their rights? Because when you have the right to choose to commandeer women's facilities to affirm your gender, (having choice of two different facilities), those women lose access to any facilities. Is your 'right' to choice really a right? Why is your choice more important than women having access to facilities? Is commandeering women's facilities the only possible way to provide you with choice while at the same time ensuring the needs of everyone is met and not just yours?
How would that be different to the position adopted by a certain regime in Germany in the 1930’s that black athletes were held to be sub-human and should not be competing against white athletes?
Well we got to that card quickly.
You're representing a political ideology here that is openly, rampantly sexist, disablist, racist, homophobic, misogynistic, classist and anti freedom of belief and freedom of speech, and anti safeguarding. It believes in forced belief, with punishment for those who speak out against it, and believes in threatening violence to intimidate and prevent people expressing anything but the orthodoxy or meeting to discuss it. It also believes that people who do not conform to the political orthodoxy being presented deserve to lose services, the right to speech and safety, and it is ok to treat them in ways that it is never ok to treat others normally - in other words they become less than human.
If you want to look at the values of a certain regime in the 1930s and you do actually know what you're talking about, then the trans ideology has one hell of a lot more in common with them than GC women do.