Is ‘not being attracted to someone until you know them well’ considered so special it now needs an entire orientation to itself?
It's crazy isn't it. I met a woman a few years ago who told me she was demi-sexual and that that meant although she might find people attractive, she only felt comfortable sleeping with people she'd formed an emotional connection to. She said it like this was a rare and unique thing to feel. I just thought wtf, that's almost everyone I know. That's just normal?!
Does this mean everyone not ‘demisexual’ is expected to drop their knickers the moment they meet?
That's what pisses me off most about this Tumblr science, is it demands as it's foil the notion that everyone else is this 2 dimensional emotionally vacuous walking stereotype. In order for them to be super duper special everyone has to be "cis-het" which in women seems to mean "princess barbie who sleeps with anyone" and in men seems to be "GI Joe hunter gatherer". And we're told that the vast majority are like this, with only a small marginalised group being cool enough to have a range of personality traits.
I honestly think it's driven (from the bottom anyway) by kids spending too much time online, esp on Tumblr, and not enough time engaging with a variety of real people in the real world. I read a story on r/detrans a while back from a former transwoman who said his dysphoria had been driven by seeing beautiful actresses and fashion models and wanting to be like them. He said it went away after he spent more time around regular women and realised that they come in all shapes and sizes and don't all think or act the same. It was really sad that he'd reached adulthood without realising that. We're still not seen as fully human by most people I think.