Actress feted for play celebrating her bravery in staying with her paedophile husband

[OrchidInTheSun]

This is sickening: www.nytimes.com/2019/03/06/theater/maddie-corman-accidentally-brave.html

There's another interview in the Times too. All about how awful it's been for her and zero concern for the children who were raped for her husband's sexual pleasure.

Ben Stiller is gushing on twitter.

Grim.

In a job l used to have then one of my delightful tasks was assessing sex offenders. Statistically they often try to kill themselves after being charged. I saw one guy who was absolutely broken and barely spoke to me. I didn’t really have much to say to him. I can see why his wife was divorcing him, the family home was being sold, his children wouldn’t speak to him and he wasn’t allowed to see his grandchildren

A colleague got into an argument with a sex offender who (amongst other things) had shared naked pictures of his granddaughter online. He said it was fine as her face was blurred out!!! My colleague didn’t see it that way

That's the point though isn't it? Viewers of images are abusing children. Presenting it as the sanitary lesser crime is misleading and denial.

Creating a market by collecting recordings of predatory acts is child abuse and everyone complicit in not condemning and utterly stigmatising the abuse is by association also an abuser of children.

A work colleague (other department, so I got everything from the newspaper, except his identity, which i got through the grape wine) was convicted of owning huge amounts of child porn (including the vilest stuff, with babies). Kept his public service job as conviction was a 1 year sentence (above that he could have been fired and the judge had mercy).

Long story short, the guy made a grand song and dance about how glad he was having been caught now gave him the opportunity to seek psychological help. Yeah right. As if he couldn’t have gotten that help before getting caught.

Always thought nothing can top that. Turns out a guy turning it into a movie just did.

Is brave a synonym for 'fucking idiot' now?

note the not-so-subtle signalling buried in the middle of the piece that it’s perhaps all because of something that may have happened to him as a child

A therapist once told me that the fact there are so many abusers who were also abused only proves how prevalent sexual abuse is rather than it turns you into an abuser.

It just adds another layer of upset and guilt on abused people who worry they will become like their abuser.

Allthechickens - much research on the matter is now showing that those who claim to have been abused themselves are usually lying. They do it to gain sympathy or even in attempts to get lighter sentencing.

When therapists and psychiatrists deal with them once they are ordered to undergo treatment there's a lot of what they claim about the abuse they claim they also experienced which doesn't actually tie in with the experiences and reactions of those who have been abused.

And a significant number (usually when they're at a point where they know they'll never be released or are on death row) admit they lied about also being abuse victims.

Remember these are highly skilled manipulators you're talking about. They're often very charming, very believable people. That's how they get sympathy, it can also be how they get access to victims and how they silence victims.

It's not always done through fear but through emotional blackmail.