“I wouldn’t wish what happened to me or my kids on anyone,” she said. “But the way that I feel, and honestly the way that my husband feels, is that when we keep things in the dark, that’s when shame and pain actually grows.”
“Our family,” she continued, “didn’t just stop being because something terrible happened.”
Your husband watched children being tortured sexually for his own gratification. He downloaded images of children being abused. And searched for more.
This is not a "thing that happened," like a blizzard or an earthquake.
This is a paedophile who searched for material containing explicit child sexual abuse and downloaded it onto his home computer. In the home where his own children presumably live, this man went onto the internet to seek out material of children being sexually victimised, in order to satisfy his own urges.
He got caught and convicted. He should be deeply ashamed of what he did. He should feel pain. The children he watched being raped certainly felt pain.
This is not an "accident," and there is nothing "brave" about staying with this man, or letting him have access to any children.