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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Then you can call me Cis, sis

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PosterPostingPosterishly · 17/03/2019 16:13

I thought I'd share this poem that I wrote, with you. It seemed to resonate with others in a different thread. I hope it makes sense!

When you have grown the ovum to produce life, to grow a child to be borne of your body,
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you have felt the ache of Mother Nature, the loss from your body every month, the pain, the mess, the shame.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you have fought for your right to say yay or nay.
When you have thrust your body beneath the Kings thoroughbred to make it known, you want your word,
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you have endured the searing pain of a tribal tradition, felt the knife to your most sensitive thing.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

*When a man thrusts his weight upon you and tells you it’s because he loves you.
When your whole body screams in pain because you’re trying not to allow him in. When you fear that off spring could be born of this,
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you are paid less than another, even though you are as good or better.
When you are not quite all the way up the ladder, because you were born without the appendage.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When a stroll down the street, becomes a zoological cacophony.
When the catcalls and whistles and stares make you look for the nearest hole in which to crawl.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you have to cover it all, at the instruction of a man.
When your hair isn’t deemed worthy of public viewing and your face must be shielded from the light.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you receive lashes across your slender back, because you dare to be a voice of freedom for those born without the privilege of man.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

I am all of these things, I fight and rise up.
I did not choose this but I will prevail.
I am a woman.
Don’t call me Cis, sis.*

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mumwon · 17/03/2019 16:16

needs to be published :)

Katvonmythicbiowoman · 17/03/2019 17:32

Moving and strong x

Lymphy · 17/03/2019 17:35

Fabulous

Motorcyclemptiness · 17/03/2019 17:39

So moving

SocFem19 · 17/03/2019 17:44

Well done. This needs to be on a billboard.

PosterPostingPosterishly · 17/03/2019 17:45

Thank you all x

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abuseofpowercomesasnosurprise · 17/03/2019 18:12

Bravo! Very powerful, needs to be performed.

PosterPostingPosterishly · 17/03/2019 18:16

When I wrote it, then read it back- I imagined it in the voice of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.

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dementedma · 17/03/2019 18:19

love this!!! very well done Op

Amoregentlemanlikemanner · 17/03/2019 18:40

doesn't work for me but I guess it works for others.

PosterPostingPosterishly · 17/03/2019 19:06

I hope you didn't find it offensive Amore. It's not going to be to everyone's taste. I appreciate a difference of opinion.

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Amoregentlemanlikemanner · 17/03/2019 19:12

no not offensive at all. Just a matter of taste/different ways of thinking.

It's like the tradition we used to have on the SN board back in the day (what has happened to the SN board anyway it's so quiet?) when people innocently posted the Welcome to Holland poem, we would reply with the Beirut poem.

NottonightJosepheen · 17/03/2019 19:18

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PosterPostingPosterishly · 17/03/2019 19:21

@NottonightJosepheen

Love that!! A good edit Wink

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MagicMix · 17/03/2019 19:24

The flaw for me is that even women who have experienced sex based oppression and having a female body are not welcome to call me cis.

It's not just men who want to impose that label.

NottonightJosepheen · 17/03/2019 20:26

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DpWm · 17/03/2019 20:48

I don't know, don't take it bad as it's well written but "then you can call me cis" makes me disagree no even then you can't call me cis because I find cis highly offensive under any circumstance.

Wearywithteens · 17/03/2019 21:13

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PosterPostingPosterishly · 17/03/2019 21:32

I don't know, don't take it bad as it's well written but "then you can call me cis" makes me disagree no even then you can't call me cis because I find cis highly offensive under any circumstance.

I totally get your point, although I meant it as- these things can never be experienced by anyone other than a woman.
A 'when pigs fly' kind of situation.

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DpWm · 17/03/2019 23:04

Ok point taken but I've had experience of ova-producing, period-having, low-wage earning females also using the word "cis" so the message gets a bit lost if you're thinking these people can call you cis ykwim.

PRoseLegend · 17/03/2019 23:10

I don't understand the bit about the King's thouroubred?
What does that verse mean?

EcclesThePeacock · 17/03/2019 23:14

ProseLegend - en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emily_Davison

PosterPostingPosterishly · 18/03/2019 06:04

Thanks Eccles.

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RebeccaCloud9 · 18/03/2019 06:10

Great. The only verse that doesn't quite work for me though is the FGM - because many, many boys are circumcised and the words in the poem could apply to both (I know they're not at all the same thing, but the words written could be).

PosterPostingPosterishly · 18/03/2019 07:08

Rebecca- funny you should say that! I struggled with the wording in that verse.
Clitoris and labia just didn't seem to fit in the poem. Blush
I get what you're saying though, I guess it could be taken as circumcision although I meant it firmly as reference to FGM.

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