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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Then you can call me Cis, sis

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PosterPostingPosterishly · 17/03/2019 16:13

I thought I'd share this poem that I wrote, with you. It seemed to resonate with others in a different thread. I hope it makes sense!

When you have grown the ovum to produce life, to grow a child to be borne of your body,
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you have felt the ache of Mother Nature, the loss from your body every month, the pain, the mess, the shame.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you have fought for your right to say yay or nay.
When you have thrust your body beneath the Kings thoroughbred to make it known, you want your word,
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you have endured the searing pain of a tribal tradition, felt the knife to your most sensitive thing.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

*When a man thrusts his weight upon you and tells you it’s because he loves you.
When your whole body screams in pain because you’re trying not to allow him in. When you fear that off spring could be born of this,
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you are paid less than another, even though you are as good or better.
When you are not quite all the way up the ladder, because you were born without the appendage.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When a stroll down the street, becomes a zoological cacophony.
When the catcalls and whistles and stares make you look for the nearest hole in which to crawl.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you have to cover it all, at the instruction of a man.
When your hair isn’t deemed worthy of public viewing and your face must be shielded from the light.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

When you receive lashes across your slender back, because you dare to be a voice of freedom for those born without the privilege of man.
Then you can call me Cis, sis.

I am all of these things, I fight and rise up.
I did not choose this but I will prevail.
I am a woman.
Don’t call me Cis, sis.*

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EcclesThePeacock · 18/03/2019 22:03

It reminded me a bit of 'If' too,

Well, if anyone wants a - hm, I don't suppose it was meant as a parody so let's say 'variation' of 'If' to tear apart unmercifully critique, there's this:

www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/52705/an-if-for-girls

LassOfFyvie · 18/03/2019 23:32

I find it so demoralising that the OP's poem should be picked apart as though she submitted a school assignment to be graded
OP wanted to share her thoughts and ideas in poem form and I think it's excessively officious to critique its artistic merit

I don't see why the fact the OP put her thoughts and ideas in the form of a poem means her thoughts and ideas are then immune from challenge in the same way as any other posts.

What I find demoralising is your assumption that a woman wrote it so unqualified and praise is expected regardless of merit.

The OP said don't mind constructive criticism or healthy debate. I don't think the poem is particularly well written or that it reads well.

NottonightJosepheen · 18/03/2019 23:41

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LassOfFyvie · 18/03/2019 23:41

Well, if anyone wants a - hm, I don't suppose it was meant as a parody so let's say 'variation' of 'If' to tear apart unmercifully critique, there's this:

If works perfectly well for girls simply by changing the last line to

And which is more - you'll be a Woman, my girl ! (girl rather than daughter as I think it needs to keep a monosyllable in the last line)

NottonightJosepheen · 18/03/2019 23:44

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EcclesThePeacock · 19/03/2019 00:31

* If works perfectly well for girls simply by changing the last line to

And which is more - you'll be a Woman, my girl ! (girl rather than daughter as I think it needs to keep a monosyllable in the last line)*

Yes, well, apart from not rhyming with 'run', and not scanning quite right...how about :
'And which is more - you'll be a true woman!' ?

elliedea · 19/03/2019 01:00

This is so embarrassing . Also those experiences aren't universal for women , it's very clumsy

ElizabethMainwaring · 19/03/2019 05:00

Adding the suffix 'erall' to the word 'shit' is not wit Josepheen.
And I'm not sure that you understand the term gaslighting either.

NottonightJosepheen · 19/03/2019 05:50

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