At what age did you 'become at peace' with your body?

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Just that really.

Cos I'd say in my early 30s.

And before my face. I missed liking my face before it started to age and never appreciated it.

Coffee I still do not think that it is the same, sorry.

as others have noted men aren't really that fussy so it wasn't an issue finding a husband
I find this assertion utterly baffling, tbh!

Well I could be wrong or there could be a third explanation. I find men who obviously work out and/or appear well groomed unattractive and always have done so I gravitated towards men who cared less about their appearance. It may be that in so doing I gravitated towards men who cared less about womens' appearance as well. The wierd thing was that girls at school were always extremely negative about my appearance but as I approached my late teens I found that men's interest in me whilst on a night out depended entirely on what I wore. Relatively low cut top = lots of approaches including from guys I knew and considered otherwise sensible. Conservative clothing = 0 approaches. Hence my assumption that guys aren't that fussy. I don't even have big breasts. We were very young then though so the fourth explanation is probably that young men maybe are less fussy.

I think men when under the spotlight are just as insecure as women have been made to feel. I once did an experiment, and looked a man up and down, watched him walked past me and then assessed his glutes. He was very embarrassed and hurriedly walked away. Most of us have had this since we first hit puberty in a visible way. Imagine how confident we would all be if we had never been subjected to it. Men think nothing of standing around staring, looking us up and down, making comments etc. Men may have body hang ups, but they're not subjected to the constant assessment.

I think men worry about losing their hair.

I was very insecure about myself during my 20s but I was reasonably attractive and got a lot of attention off men. I was way to worried about how other people saw me rather than taking a good look at myself.

Once I had my children, in my early 30s, I started noticing the inequality between the sexes. As they say nothing radicalises a woman like becoming a mother. I began to notice more and more that men who I thought were interested in what I was saying were actually only interested in either making a move (sexually) or proving me wrong (proving they were smarter!) It made me look at myself entirely differently and start to value my character and brain rather than my appearance especially how other people see me.

Once I didn't care what others thought (as much, I can't claim I never care) it made me feel confident with myself including my appearance. So whilst I wish I had appreciated my youth a little more only with experience do I think you can know (and accept) who you are.

In the last couple of years (I’m in my mid 30s) I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m about as average as most people. I’m no great beauty but neither are most people, so why do I think I have to be more attractive? I just look like me. I don’t care if I’m an acquired taste, in fact it’s fine by me. It’ll weed out some of the baduns.

I’m still horribly paranoid about my weight though, so maybe I’m not there yet.

I just think, fuck it, I'm 51, have birthed children, breastfed through the nights on countless nights, I weight train and my body is strong and fit. I think my body looks damn good, and functions well, thank fuck.

30s, and definitely linked to bearing a child.

I pretended I had body confidence in my 20s, but didn't really. I just avoided looking at myself.

Mid-late twenties. Definitely cared a lot of less since being pregnant and having a DD. Looking back I had a great body in my early twenties and wish I’d appreciated it more. DP had a big impact as he absolutley worshipped my body when we started dated, and we’ve both gradually got fatter since moving in together and getting more comfortable. I would like to lose the baby weight but that’s more to do with not being able to afford an entire new wardrobe in a bigger size.

Saw the BBC today has a news article on Januhairy. I'm fair so don't shave my legs often anyway despite being a cyclist. Think I'll abandon shaving my pits too but can't be bothered with sponsorship etc will just do it for a month of naturalness.

For me it was late 40s when I started to work out. I'd always been okay with my body as I'm blessed with a small frame, but over time baby weight had become permanent weight. Then I discovered Jillian Michaels and even though my body is far from perfect, it's stronger than ever and can do more than ever.

I'm one of those 50 year old women that wears a bikini and rocks it

Is "resigned" the same as "at peace"? If it is, that's where I am now. When younger I was never at peace, or anything approximating it, due to complicated circs that I don't need to go into right now. There really are some (few) benefits to getting old. Not giving a fig for what other people think is one of them. That's a kind of freedom I wish I had as a young woman

You young 'uns - wait till you find out what menopause and hitting your late 50s does to your body...you have to start all over again with coming to terms with it.

I’m ok. I accept I’m average looking and scrub up well with make up.
I’m pretty happy with my body but I’m quite controlling about diet and exercise because
I really can’t bear to be overweight. I’m naturally an apple shape and I just don’t carry extra weight well at all. I have to eat low carb and work out every other day to stay within the healthy BMI. All excess weight goes to my mid section and it’s really unsightly. It’s probably not PC to say it but I love being thin (ideally I’d like to lose about 9lbs)

Pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and motherhood. My children love my body so much and love to squish, headbutt, slap and cuddle any wobbly part of it. I realise that my body is beautiful and adorable to them - which was quite a suprise since my head was full of media and advertising imagery and the commercialisation of the misogynist's male gaze- through the drip, drip affect of living in this culture from birth.
I now can see myself through a child's gaze and feel okay about myself. I really hate being around people who pepper their conversation with reinforcement of misogynist male-gaze thinking and avoid if possible.
Women come in loads of different shapes and sizes and bodies change as they get older and I think that is beautiful. Trying to look like you've only just passed puberty is ridiculous - like regretting that gnarly old trees don't look like saplings.