As feminists we’ve got to move away from a politics which is based around perceptions of realness.
Indeed, as feminists we really ought to be focusing on unrealness, and that's why I've decided that my next big feminist project is going to be a mission to deliver a thousand units of DepoProvera to the struggling nonmen of Alpha Centauri, who definitely exist even if we have no proof of them doing so and who will be delighted to humbly accept my gift of contraceptives designed for humans, and will respond by making me their Empress.
See? Far better to move firmly away from a focus on realness. Partly because in the event that anyone recovers from their confusion enough to ask whether your feminist project was successful there's no need to give them a real answer, since we've already established the fact that reality is problematic.