Hi I am after genuine opinions, I wasn't sure whether to post in here or in health but as it isn't a health question as such I thought maybe here.....if it's the wrong section please just say. I have also namechanged but am a long time user and poster.
A close young male relation of mine was born with a rare genetic issue that basically means that although he is genetically male (this has been DNA tested) he doesn't have a penis, no visible testicles and is incontinent as his bladder didn't form properly. For several reasons not relevant constructive surgery so far has not proved very successful so the current focus is on helping him achieve continence as this is more important for him day to day. He came to me very distressed the other day as someone who he considered a friend and who seems to be involved feminist crowd, basically said he was fine to attend a woman's group as he isn't really male as men have penises.
At school the focus has very much been on biological sex which includes the fact that men have penises, women don't as a means of definition and within the trans debate which they have been gathering opinions on.
Basically I'm just looking for advice as to how to advise him? as you can imagine this is extremely sensitive. And if anyone has a better definition I could share with him?
Thank you.