Trans sexuality

[iamawoman]

Just wondering about peoples perspectives on this
As a heterosexual female, I am not attracted to women (my loss, i know). Therefore I would be very unlikely to be attracted to a feminine appearing transwoman with a femininised body. However equally I wouldn't be attracted to a trans woman with a penis, as sexual attraction is not just about genitals, however they are an essential part of a sexual relationship, so this also rules out attraction to a trans male as they do not have functioning genitalia . I am sure I can't be alone on this and just wondering where this does leave trans people in terms of relationships and defining their sexual preferences. Is this transphobic??

that's why i just feel they would all be better served if they direct their activism towards more acceptance of being trans women or men rather than being accepted as authentically the opposite sex

I agree.

But I don't think many of them genuinely believe they are authentically the opposite sex, tbh.

For many it appears to be entirely about obedience and the ultimate male dominance display.

@writersblock2 - I could have written your post practically word for word. Thanks for crystallising my thoughts around this so eloquently.

The worst thing about this is when kids are involved. An adult choosing to transition must be aware that this will dramatically reduce their pool of sexual partners.

But a 5-year-old being socially transitioned or a 12-year-old being given puberty blockers is totally ignorant of the consequences for sexual relationships far in the future. As far as I can tell, parents don't want to think about it or just don't care. Clinicians also seem to avoid this, perhaps because it's distasteful.

And of course puberty blockers presumably prevent sexual interest (as well as sexual function) developing, so the kid will never know what they will be missing.

Does anyone actually know for a fact that most transwomen identify as lesbians or is that just an assumption made on the basis that alot of the vocal TRA identify as lesbians?

I can see how hard it must be for a person with gender dysphoria to go through a transition and then find that most people don't want to engage in a relationship with them, and the ones that do just have a trans fetish. But your can't force people's sexuality. There are lots of people that can't find partners for whatever reason, it's unfortunate but just the way of the world. A lot of disabled people also struggle to find partners but they're not shouting discrimination.

THis recently published book may be of interest Radardetector. The opening chapters are writted by Dr Az Hakeem a gender specialist.

Dr Hakeem discusses both sexuality and the different groups of people who are transgender.

Its very accessible and direct and intended for everyone including professionals.

there's some open access here:
www.amazon.co.uk/TRANS-Exploring-Gender-Identity-Dysphoria/dp/1911246496?tag=mumsnetforum-21