Thanks, Rat, I wasn't expecting quite such a long post.
"It's all there - the love bombing, the promise of a better life, the isolating from mainstream society, the scapegoating and othering of anyone who recognises what's really going on."
Er, yeah...
Are you suggesting that we do this on MN? Or what? I'm not sure what your point is here.
Your instinct to be kind and inclusive is actually your "female socialisation" and you need to reject that! Ignore your instincts, men put them there to enslave you.
One this we can perhaps agree on, again, Rat. I don't get this 'female socialisation' thing. But being caring, particularly about children, is what brought me to this issue. I watched this programme and saw children who were being taken to doctors as if there was something wrong with them because they were playing with the 'wrong' toys or wanted to wear the 'wrong' clothes for their sex.
Towards the end (about 50 min in) there is a young woman who was persuaded that she was transgender, and who took testosterone, which has permanently altered her appearance and her voice. Hers is a desperately sad story.
I think many of us became aware of this issue because of the way children are being affected. Mumsnet made me aware of how it might also affect me as a woman, but I still think that is less important and less urgent than what is being done to children.
To bring this back to your point, I don't think anyone here has suggested that we should not be caring about children, or ignore any instincts we have about such things.