This is awful.
It makes me cross when people tell me "listen to your children when they tell you what they want" or similar.
If I did that, we would subsist on a diet of chocolate, pizza and chips, we would never visit the dentist, and school would be optional.
Listening too much to children leads to this madness. You listen when they tell you what masterpiece they created out of toilet rolls, you listen when they talk about what games they played. But you don't listen to them making ridiculous choices. As the adult, it is your responsibility to say no. You say "yes, you can wear a sparkly dress if you want to, but it does not make you a girl."