More females than males go to university these days, young women under 30 earn more than young males as a result
Then what happens?
- The nature of biology means women are hit disproportionately by pregnancy and childbirth. Im pregnant with my second, I’ve needed to be signed off for several weeks at the start because I was vomiting up to fifty times a day. I now have childbirth, lactation and recovery from pregnancy and birth ahead of me. The first one floored me, I expect this to be similar. DH will surge ahead at work.
Friends have had serious complications with childbirth. One friend turned down a more senior role which involved a lot of travel because she is basically incontinent after her first birth. Biology directly impacts women, and it disadvantages us. And that’s with western medical care.
- The structure of the world of work means that when women have children, they are predominantly the ones doing the parental leave, then men expect to be facilitated more at work (there is a great thread about this, I’ll put the link in another post.) so men surge ahead again because women are doing all the grunt work and allowing them to.
So that’s just biology. (Similar things happen with race and with poverty. I’m no expert on race, but I’ve seen poverty first hand and that is a massive disadvantage.)
And it is a societal structural problem. DH and I try to be as equal as we can. We are very equal parents but we feel the pressure from our work. When he takes a day for a sick child he’s a hero. If I take one I’m uncommitted. Why can’t he fly to Miami tomorrow for a meeting? Doesn’t he have a wife at home? Etc. Etc. It’s constant. If a couple as committed to equality as us feels it, I can be sure a lot of others do too.
society is set up to benefit men (and the rich, and white people.)
So al those women under thirty? Well they’re probably like I was before I had kids. Nothing opens your eyes to how much society is rigged against women like a direct encounter with your biology. That can be something nice, like having kids, or something awful, like gynae cancer, or being at the mercy of a larger, stronger Male, or rape.
But once you’ve seen it, you can’t unsee it.
Society is rigged. All those quotas are aimed at evening the field. Once the field is even and humans are advanced enough to not slide back to barbarity if they’re removed, we can remove them.
But we can’t remove them now.