I think there is an abusive cycle going on here. Political and cultural small c conservativism in the past forced an identity on others. Women, minorities, sexual orientations, you name it. Now they have been supplanted by the rebels and dissidants, the heirs to that are behaving in exactly the same way, and the cycle will probably turn again and I’ll have to get off the right wing bandwagon or reign in my personal politics.
One thing I’ll note from maybe a feminist perspective, and feel free to correct me if I’m talking out of my arse here (it’s not my natural idealogical position): the commonality is women are always in a state of being told what they are or should be, and deviation from this is punished and policed.
I’d dearly love to chime in with a rebuttal to your point Offred, but despite my knee jerk desire to do that, I have a feeling I haven’t quite grasped what you mean (going off some interesting things you’ve posted in other threads), but I have an inkling you may be right, and I need to reflect on your points in more detail.