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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

The Big Questions BBC 'should you be able to self declare your gender?'

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R0wantrees · 03/06/2018 01:54

On at 10am

The Big Questions BBC 'should you be able to self declare your gender?'
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placemats · 03/06/2018 11:35

I didn't get petulance with regard to Heather. I did get that she was intimidated though.

Perhaps we should agree to differ.

IamXXHearMeRoar · 03/06/2018 11:35

We are feminists.

We have no issue with confused gender individuals who obviously deserve our sympathy as a matter of course. We have issue with the erosion of women's rights, the oppression of women and violence towards women, particularly by men. The dress code observed by those men is irrelevant!

I have no training but have noticed when discussing this topic with the uninformed that to lead with anything that can be misconstrued as prejudice is to close the door on the conversation.

By leading with the effects on women's rights of a definition change and pointing out the knock on effects on sex based statistics (crime, sports, population, health care etc) you are far less likely to alienate your audience before you can convey the facts. Finish up by mentioning Ian Huntly and you have created a peak trans moment.

IamXXHearMeRoar · 03/06/2018 11:38

FWIW I think JF came across as huffy, mumbling and smarmy, not nice just a bit of a bully.

Tanith · 03/06/2018 11:38

That’s fine Smile

I think I picked up the intimidation because I know it’s Jane’s method, having seen it before. I’m wondering if the audience would have realised it.

R0wantrees · 03/06/2018 11:44

I think Heather made the point that this was about something that affects everyone.
Many people will only just be starting to be aware of the issues.
Women's prisons were raised.

Women involved with Fairplay 4 Women, Transgender Trend, WPUK etc are still dealing with the consequences of condemnation by some TRAs for being 'transphobic and fuelling hate'.
www.thetimes.co.uk/article/trans-activist-bullies-stop-donations-for-schoolchildren-cgj29rcdl

Was this the first media appearance for Heather since the Moral Maze?
it's worth remembering how she came to lose her position within WEP following this program and is covered:
www.heather-brunskell-evans.co.uk/thoughts/podcast-the-idea-of-trans-kids/

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JoanSummers · 03/06/2018 11:48

The intimidation is really obvious to me, it's part of the "male supremacist's toolkit" Fae lugs to everything Fae does.

JoanSummers · 03/06/2018 11:51

I don't have a problem with Heather, I agree with a PP that she obviously has an enormous intellect. This show just wasn't the right platform for it.

IamXXHearMeRoar · 03/06/2018 11:54

Well to me leaning at someone and breathing and harumphing on them whilst making disapproving faces when they are trying to talk on camera is rude but maybe I am more primed to spot a bit of entitled manspreading than your average joe...

I did wonder if Heather had been threatened off camera before the show or something, she seemed shook up. I felt sorry for her because she was clearly upset BUT that also means she wasn't the best choice for that job and needs some training in channelling her inner WonderWoman so she doesn't get caught out like that again.

I want her to get renewed confidence from this thread if she reads it, not feel knocked down. This should be an opportunity to learn and grow.

R0wantrees · 03/06/2018 11:55

Comments on Twitter use #bbctbq

Additionally 'Big Questions' have a number of threads running:

twitter.com/bbcbigquestions?lang=en

The Big Questions BBC 'should you be able to self declare your gender?'
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JoanSummers · 03/06/2018 11:59

The twitter thread of snipped quotes is much more manageable than the actual programme was, thanks for sharing that R0wantrees.

The people watching the show and the people watching the twitter won't be completely the same crowd, Heather's arguments definitely come over better as quotes and Jane Fae doesn't come over well in their own.

R0wantrees · 03/06/2018 12:03

Maybe the thing to do is to show the segment to a few people we all know who are are less aware (without giving any background) and see how they respond.
If they start to ask more questions then surely that's a significant outcome?
If they feel that this shouldn't be discussed any further as the law only relates to people who transgender and people wanting to debate this are uneccesarily fueling hatred & transphobia, that's another significant outcome.

& of course there may be many other responses and outcomes.

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JoanSummers · 03/06/2018 12:03

Does anyone else notice how Fae tries to soften their voice on the radio much more than they do on the TV? I think it's because Fae can't use clothes and lady gestures on the radio so tries to compensate with a more vulnerable sounding voice.

Tanith · 03/06/2018 12:20

“The people watching the show and the people watching the twitter won't be completely the same crowd, Heather's arguments definitely come over better as quotes and Jane Fae doesn't come over well in their own.”

I agree. Stripped of body language and tone, the arguments are clear and Heather’s points read so much better.

Very little communication is in the written word and that is shown in this programme.
Unfortunately, I don’t think those viewers will trouble to read the arguments and certainly won’t bother about background and past campaigns. They’re interested in the immediate.
This is a show that put the World Cup debate on first.

JoanSummers · 03/06/2018 12:36

This is a show that put the World Cup debate on first.

When you put it like that.. Yeh to everything you just said.

I wonder if HBE would have been able to be clearer if she hadn't been sat right next to JF, if there had been some space between them.

placemats · 03/06/2018 12:38

Debates put on first have little traction in social media though. Of course the BBC put the World Cup Debate on first and it really was virtue signalling. They have a huge financial interest when it comes to showing World Cup coverage.

R0wantrees · 03/06/2018 12:40

This is a show that put the World Cup debate on first

I don't think that's neccessily a bad thing... people who were interested in the World cup may have then heard the beginning of the discussion about GRA.

If they were interested in the World cup segment and the GRA discussion was on first, they may have gone & made a cuppa thinking it didn't have any relevence for them.

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SuperLoudPoppingAction · 03/06/2018 12:53

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1252462/Andrea-Fletcher-devoted-fiancee-whos-sticking-man-John-Ozimek-despite-fact-wants-woman-named-Jane-Fae.html

Was wondering why there was such a little and large vibe - 6 foot 3! That's surely unusually tall for a human.

Are we just a bit titchy in Scotland? I don't think I could see the face of someone that height if I craned my neck.

StickyStuffRemover · 03/06/2018 13:21

I've had training on how to give evidence in court, & Heather's behaviour reminded me of that. You're told not to look at or address yourself to the other side's barrister at any time as this makes it harder for them to interrupt, manipulate or control you. I got the impression she was employing that tactic as a device to maintain control over the situation, and to minimise the chance of being spoken over by JF.

placemats · 03/06/2018 13:45

Well that's my point ROwantrees. I like football, and I'm a woman. Basically the 'moral' implications of whether we should watch the world cup because it's being held in Russia was a virtue signalling operation from the offset.

R0wantrees · 03/06/2018 14:20

I must confess, I missed the World cup bit... I went and made some tea and toast! Wink

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BlytheByName · 03/06/2018 14:20

I bet that watching it with the sound off emphasised the dominance of JF over HBE. Unfortunately HBE doesn't get to the point quickly enough, or in an accessible way.
But JF to me comes across as ludicrous. The eye rolling, the harrumping, it is petulant but dominance. I am sure novices to the debate notice that, which is why I think JF always helps our cause.

loveyouradvice · 03/06/2018 15:14

Darn.... such a great opportunity squandered.... Thank goodness for the clarity of the Daily Mail.....

Agree with all about media training for those in the spotlight.... and the need to actively seek it out... I would have hoped some trainers would have come forward

OnTheList · 03/06/2018 15:15

Was wondering why there was such a little and large vibe - 6 foot 3! That's surely unusually tall for a human.

My husband is that tall. It seems my kids are going to be huge too. Luckily they are young now, but I think in 10 years or so I will feel like a mouse or something when out with them Grin

OnTheList · 03/06/2018 15:16

Thank goodness for the clarity of the Daily Mail.....

Seems so bloody odd seeing this written on MN. I do get where you are coming from though

PeakPants · 03/06/2018 16:06

Just watched that on catch-up. Heather was absolutely dreadful (sorry Heather) and let's be honest, anyone watching that is not going to be swayed in the slightest by that. I am not a Jane Fae fan, but she sadly wiped the floor with her although she lost it a little towards the end. Also, that guy who asked the first question about people being prosecuted for writing Mr instead of Ms didn't help either.

To win people over, the argument needs to be made so much more articulately. The young black woman from the audience for instance was very articulate when she said that actually this is not great for trans people because it is a life-changing decision and they need support. Heather briefly threw in at the end that they would not be given support, but that was never a clear point. She could have stated that trans people are vulnerable, need emotional and medical support and that the new plans would remove the state's obligation to provide them.

Secondly, she made quite a major mistake. She says the change in the law will mean people now ARE the sex they claim to be. The existing law already allows birth certificates to be changed. There is nothing new in the reforms that changes that- it already exists. The only thing that changes is the need for a doctor to sign it off and the 2 year waiting period. By confusing the issue with the birth certificates, people who know about the current law will just be able to discredit her.

Thirdly, Jane is actually right that there is no automatic right to go into a female prison even if you have a GRC and there won't be once the law is changed. Heather and anyone else who goes on media needs to be absolutely 100% bang-on with what they are saying.

I was shouted down on another thread, but I think the debate needs to be reframed because you most certainly will not persuade anyone by having Heather on The Big Questions (sorry Heather). You can fight the self-ID thing by reframing it as concern that trans people are able to make such a life-changing decision without medical support. But you can also point out that you are simply seeking to protect, in limited circumstances, women's same sex spaces. Ignore the debate about whether someone is born in the wrong body. It honestly is a red herring in this debate. The concern is not a trans person's right to self-identify more easily, it is that some spaces need to be female only. That, I think the general public would be on board with. This stuff, not so much.

I wonder if this was very last minute for Heather, whether she stood in for someone else. She refused to look at Jane Fae too, which made her come across as hostile. I wonder if they had an altercation earlier on or something.

Karen Ingala-Smith is good at these sorts of things actually. Or RRC. This is RRC's video about reframing the debate:

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