The problem seems to be, LastGirl, that in the 21st Century Western Social Caste system, the Catholic Church is Untouchable, along with all who sail in her.
"Maybe we should ask whether the Catholic Church is interested in what feminists think, and in reaching out to feminists? Can it overlook the things feminists say and do that it thinks are wrong?"
Thanks - the Catholic Church is interested in everyone, regardless of what kind of "-ist" they are. It truly believes that its message and values are universal and eternal. It's not really interested in winning arguments for their own sake, but rather in proclaiming and defending the truth, as it sees it, about human life and its relationship with God.
In defence of the truth that men are men and women are women, certainly the Church would not refuse to sit down with anyone whose views differed in some ways from its own - unlike some people on this thread/board.