Genghis, I see what you're saying, but there's a difference between saying "I don't have the resources to tackle the real problem here" and saying "because I don't have those resources, I will become part of the problem, by reinforcing those very patriarchal structures, and adding my voice, as a professional person in a position of authority and power, to the overwhelming chorus saying to this woman 'you must put up with this intolerable situation, the problem lies with you, not him'."
The therapist on the thread alluded to was undoubtedly in the latter category - the "Be a good stepford wife and the problem will disappear" category.