I've recently had the unpleasant experience of realising what a horrible arrogant dismissive misogynist an old friend is via discussions on the trans issue. Totally unsympathetic to women's experience, opinions and concerns, blind to his many privileges and constantly attemping to smear trans-activist critical people as loony religious types or hysterical paranoics. I actually feel like our friendship is over because of this, and I don't say that lightly-I have friends with varying opinions and ideologies about lots of things, I don't live in an echo chamber. But this guy.. it would shock you, he's hypereducated, right-on, social justice type... although if you read Glosswitch you wouldn't be surprised as she identifies his "type"- at least you know where you are with the old school "pussy grabbers" 