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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

My daughter is ten and presenting as every anxious girl on the planet

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humourless · 06/03/2017 14:36

Four girls in my daughters class have anxiety stomach aches, I've read that these girls are ripe for being school refusers at secondary school. In year five they still change with the boys for PE and do PE with the boys... which I think is shit.
Some of the shit my daughter has dealt with recently.
Not being invited to parties, she's not the only one
Being sat at a table where one girl invites everyone to her house except my DD
A troubled girl befriending her and telling everyone my dd has ever said
A girl in her class having lists about who is nice and who isn't (my daughter wasn't on either list)
Her good friend being told not to talk to her (a very weird toxic friendship the two that have pissed off have).

What is going on with girls? There's no solidarity, the school are impotent to this social exclusion style bullying.

My dd is tall and beautiful, painfully shy, hates sports (which I think could be brilliant for her) trying really hard not to be shy and puts herself out there to push herself, bright but slipping rapidly at school due to the social side of stuff (I know I sound a dick for saying that but she is striking and gets a lot of attention from adults for it which she absolutely loathes).

I guess I don't want to focus on my dd, but the wider issue of girls that begin to really suffer at school from puberty onwards and what schools and society can do about it.

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humourless · 14/03/2017 20:04

I do try and encourage her to answer back but she's frightened of getting into trouble and she's too shy to tell...

We are working very hard to overcome this. Today I've said if she can climb the mountain of speaking to an adult who she needs help I will buy her these japanese sweets she's been talking about..... I'm not proud.

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WobblyLegs5 · 14/03/2017 20:09

Do the school have a mentoring program or buddy system? Can you ask them to implement these? My kids do speaking groups, more to work on social skills & confidence in social situations, but that may not be as suitable for older kids.

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