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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Can anyone suggest why girls at 6 change their view of girls' ability to be brilliant?

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Italiangreyhound · 28/01/2017 20:33

Can anyone suggest why girls at 6 change their view of girls' ability to be brilliant?

Just that?

What's the cause?

www.theguardian.com/education/2017/jan/26/girls-believe-brilliance-is-a-male-trait-research-into-gender-stereotypes-shows

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HelenDenver · 03/02/2017 20:59

Sucks, doesn't it, 3?

HelenDenver · 03/02/2017 21:00

I know o always plug it, but "a mighty girl" is good for recommendations.

RebelRogue · 03/02/2017 21:47

Topic at school is space. Kids have learned a lot about it. They also went to the science museum this week and part of it was a film about people on the ISS with female crew included. A lot less women than men but they were there,on camera(with a lot more "air time"). Talking today in class and i mentioned men and women going into space. Blank faces. Have women been into space?! Nooo... oh yeah Yuri Gagarin. She was a woman wasn't she?

FACEPALM!

RebelRogue · 03/02/2017 21:53

I've said this before but here it goes.
Dd has come home from school with sexist stuff. Strangely enough it's against boys and all about what boys can't do; wear hairclips,have long hair,play princesses etc. I keep telling her there's no such thing as boy things and girls thing. Everyone can do and wear whatever they like. Luckily,she hasn't had it turn against her yet, as i asked her how would she feel if someone told her she couldn't be an astronaut because she's a girl and only boys can be one. She promptly replied "That's ok I'll just be a lady astronaut". It honestly doesn't occur to her (yet) that her gender comes with (social) limitations. As far as she's concerned she can be whatever she wants to be. A chef and builder in her spare time last time i checked GrinGrin

Morphene · 04/02/2017 00:52

I wonder how far you can get with kids just by reframing every stereotype.

When they say 'boys do X' You say 'some boys do X' and repeat ad infinitum.

Italiangreyhound · 04/02/2017 02:57

KateAdiesEarrings Very interesting.

"italian I wonder if it's related to maturity. Studies have shown girls mature earlier than boys and this impacts on how they process their environment.* If they're maturing into a patriarchal society, it follows that their perception of both their abilities and their achievements will gradually wane. It would be interesting to see if the results were replicated in matriarchal societies."

That sounds like girls brains will mature more quickly (I can understand that and can maybe see an developmental reason for the survival of our species!) and the realization that society is imbalanced will dawn on girls earlier. Is that it?

Which matriarchal societies are you thinking of?

The monkey study seemed to find something about males but not about females.

"In humans, studies have shown that boys gravitate strongly to stereotypically "masculine" toys such as trucks and other vehicles, while girls are less rigid, spending relatively equal amounts of time playing with boy-favored toys and with more traditionally "feminine" toys such as dolls. One hypothesis put forward to explain this difference has been that boys face greater societal discouragement when they play with "girl toys" than girls do in the reverse situation. The researchers figured that by looking at rhesus monkeys, who don't face comparable social pressures to conform to gender roles, they might be able to illuminate biological influences on toy selection as well.

In their study, the researchers compared how 34 rhesus monkeys living in a single troop interacted with human toys categorized as either masculine or feminine. The "masculine" set consisted of wheeled toys preferred by human boys (e.g., a wagon, a truck, a car, and a construction vehicle); the "feminine" set was comprised of plush toys comparable to stuffed animals and dolls (e.g., a Raggedy-Annâ„¢ doll, a koala bear hand puppet, an armadillo, a teddy bear, and a turtle). Individual monkeys were released into an outdoor area containing one wheeled toy and one plush toy, with the researchers taping all interactions using separate cameras for each toy, identifying all specific behaviors, and statistically analyzing the results.

The results closely paralleled those found in human children. As with human boys, male rhesus monkeys clearly preferred wheeled toys over plush toys, interacting significantly more frequently and for long durations with the wheeled toys. Also mirroring human behavior, female rhesus monkeys were less specialized, playing with both plush and wheeled toys and not exhibiting significant preferences for one type over the other."

La the study with monkey is great. Datun I kind of think that women (girls) more than men (boys) look for human connection. So are female children or monkeys more likely to be attracted to faces? I guess I believe the majority of this is socialization but with the monkeys then that throws a potential curve ball.

(Assuming the study is sound)

No one seems to have picked up on my "Give the monkeys a truck designed to look like a baby and a baby designed to look like a truck! See who goes for what. Simple!"

But that was a serious suggestion.Although almost impossible to do unless specially made but I easily found...

Toy trucks with faces...

www.amazon.co.uk/Tonka-Chuck-Friends-Handy-Truck/dp/B003UWQL1M?tag=mumsnetforum-21

And dolls which have no eyes or other facial features.

uk.pinterest.com/valeriesengupta/motanka-dolls-of-russia/

I wonder which toy would attract male or female babies or female or male monkeys.

It would be interesting to see.

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Italiangreyhound · 04/02/2017 04:27

Ooopse, I meant to say thanks so much for all the comments, sorry to take so long to get back on and read the thread!

The comments I just made about human babies and monkeys and looking for faces was that maybe females are somehow inately programmed to look for faces. I had a weird experience when dd was little, I fell asleep with her and when I woke up I kind of instincly looked for her and the first thing I found was like a cushion with a round 'face-shape' on it. So my eyes even in the semi darkness and feeling abit groggy were looking for my baby and looking for her face! I was so weird and disconcerting and of course I quickly found the real baby!

AssassinatedBeauty I am with you, I am 100% female too! But also like to defy 'gender' sterotypes. Trying to work out what is innate and what is not is actually so helpful. I used to feel I had to struggle with heavy objects or smoke cigars to be equal to men! How crazy is that!

Cakingbad "I believe it is now understood that you live longer if you have a female GP and outcomes are better for female physicians across the board." Yay, we have a female GP, she is excellent. So pleased to hear this! But then again, why! It seems to be because they listen to the patient more. So that is not, I think necessarily at all innnate, so all doctors could be better if they followed this.

But I was really unclear about the androgens. What was the significance of that.

Re Testosterone. This is interesing evidencebasedparent.blogspot.co.uk/2014/07/the-myth-of-toddler-testosterone-surge.html

Morphene your comments at Fri 03-Feb-17 13:25:01 are excellent.

You are teaching me Latin, how great! Post hoc, ergo propter hoc

Must go to bed, thanks for engaging. I thought this thread would not go anywhere but you have all proved me wrong! Smile

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HelenDenver · 04/02/2017 08:03

What a fabulous post, Italian.

I'm very much on the side of most things being nurture/socialisation, rather than nature/innate, because (a) socialisation is so damn strong but invisible, often and (b) we can never have an "unsocialised" experimental environment, so it's unknowable.

I can come up with a theory why weaker animals need to be aware of the faces of stronger animals, to read for warnings of violence or pursuit, of course. Then I want to know if the monkey experiment was done later, with all males, once a "pecking order" was established. As was posted upthread with charts, the variation within a sex may or may not be wider than the variation between. Etc.

HelenDenver · 04/02/2017 08:05

Also it is a matter of perception with some experiments. A buggy is a wheeled toy just as a truck is. A buggy is a better toy because it can carry more than a truck. A buggy is a worse toy because it is more likely to tip over than a truck. A buggy may not be perceived by the user as a baby doll related toy at all!

Itisnoteasybeingdifferent · 04/02/2017 08:34

Can someone please explain how someone can become brilliant when they and most of their peer group focus their attention on looks?

Datun · 04/02/2017 08:56

italian

Datun I kind of think that women (girls) more than men (boys) look for human connection

It's an interesting one. It would make sense from a biological point of view that females responded to human-like toys from a maternal viewpoint. There are going to be some hard wired biological reasons.

There was an interesting study years ago where a number of people were asked to draw a bike. When the drawings were collected, everyone had drawn a bike but a significant proportion of those drawn by women had a person sitting on it. Those drawn by men were just the bike. Women see 'faces' in curtain patterns and clouds, etc.

I think the problem arises when any of these preferences are considered gender specific, because that's what women do, rather than that's what women feel.

It's a subtle difference, but one which is then exploited by socialisation.

So, females looking for faces and human contact = women! stay at home forever raising a brood of children!

I still think the truck thing is bollocks, though. The male monkeys werent interested in the person-like toy so took the next available option, by default.

Xenophile · 04/02/2017 09:06

ItsNotEasy

Not sure I understand, are you saying that children aged 1-5 focus their attention on looks?

HelenDenver · 04/02/2017 09:12

... and equally, a truck may not be perceived by the user as anything to do with roads/construction either.

Plenty of kids chuck their teddy or doll into a truck to pull about.

RebelRogue · 04/02/2017 09:22

I still think the truck thing is bollocks, though. The male monkeys werent interested in the person-like toy so took the next available option, by default.

I wonder what the outcome would be if there was a third (neutral) set of toys introduced like balls,puzzles,building blocks etc.

Datun · 04/02/2017 09:39

What if it was a pink Penelope Pitstop car? Designed for the female sex. Would the male monkey discard it on account of his innate preference for things designed for males?

I can understand a monkey mimicking motherhood by holding a doll. But I can't possibly buy into a monkey's innate (so a characteristic honed by thousands of years of evolution) preference for an invention that is less than 100 years old.

Italiangreyhound · 04/02/2017 10:09

All excellent points. Are there any studies on female and male baby haze? Do female babies look to faces more quickly/frequently?

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Itisnoteasybeingdifferent · 04/02/2017 10:09

Xeno,
It's about nature/nuture and roll models.

What roll model does a 6yo see? Women who concentrate on looks and beauty. Women who spend time doing makeup. Women who go shopping for clothes. Women talking about babies.

Xenophile · 04/02/2017 10:15

And that's all women is it?

Itisnoteasybeingdifferent · 04/02/2017 10:21

Clearly not..
But probably the vast majority.

As a personal opinion, I don't think it offers much chance for a little girl to think of herself being brilliant when she is surrounded by people who do not excel at things "brilliant".

Italiangreyhound · 04/02/2017 10:22

I don't think anyone believes all women buy into a stereotype of beauty/make up/hair styles etc. But if you go into any newsagents (which my kids love to do = sweets!) There are racks of magazines presenting silences beautiful and sexual people.

Billboards/TV/internet all show women in this light much of the time. I listen to the life scientific on radio 4 and hear many scientists who are women. But my kids do not share my passion for radio 4.

So I think girls are fed a diet of ideas that require then to spend two or three times in terms if money and time on their appearance compared to boys.

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Italiangreyhound · 04/02/2017 10:24

'Women as' not silences! What a cruelly apt auto correction.

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LassWiTheDelicateAir · 04/02/2017 10:24

What roll model does a 6yo see? Women who concentrate on looks and beauty. Women who spend time doing makeup. Women who go shopping for clothes. Women talking about babies

All women ? All day?

M0stlyBowlingHedgehog · 04/02/2017 10:27

Bit of a tangent, but one thing which fascinated me when DS was a toddler was that he used his toy cars to explore social interaction. Either they were being played with by imaginary people (his bedtime game used to involve allocating cars to his friends at nursery - I could always tell who was "best friend" at the time because they got his favourite car) or the cars were people (he had a wonderful tea party in the dolls' house with toy cars, then when a truck arrived, the cars quickly decided to change the indoor tea party into an outdoor barbecue so the truck could join in Grin).

I'd be interested to know if the people doing these studies have ever looked at the actual games being played rather than simply "child X is playing with stereotypically male/female toy..."

HelenDenver · 04/02/2017 10:31

Yy Hedgehog.

"What roll model does a 6yo see? Women who concentrate on looks and beauty. Women who spend time doing makeup. Women who go shopping for clothes. Women talking about babies."

Bollocks. Six year old girls will see their mothers, their teachers (likely to be majority female in most primaries), mothers of their friends, doctors.

Which of these do you think spends all their time shopping for clothes and talking about babies?! As opposed to getting on with their jobs or household chores?

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 04/02/2017 10:31

But if you go into any newsagents (which my kids love to do = sweets!) There are racks of magazines presenting silences beautiful and sexual people

I very much doubt a 6 year old buying sweets is going to be even notice the latest edition of Vogue. Most newsagents in any case have dozens of magazines for all sorts of interests. I am not convinced a 6 year old is going to notice the type of magazine you are referring over say comics, pet care or car magazines.