I heartily commend you for your bravery Dadbot!
'Presumably the more people who identify as feminist the better? To effect meaningful change we want as many feminists & allies as possible. I will certainly be teaching my boys to be "feminists".'
In theory, yes. But in my rather extensive experience many men who identify as feminists don't want nearly the same amount of change as radical feminists do and their contribution can often be detrimental rather than helpful.
"Men" as a group are clearly the problem, but as individuals, men surely will be part of the solution?'
Yes, but only if men can recognise their own privilege, which is rare IME.
'P.s. It's a little depressing to hear that "no men really want equality as it will be a detriment to them". Some people actually want to pay more tax in order to support those less well off. Self service doesn't drive everyone. Also not sure that premise is true - most households involve a woman and a man, so anything lost by the man would be gained by the woman?'
Some people want to pay more tax, but most people don't. It's normal and human to want to benefit yourself and your family, that's not a particular criticism of men. Because patriarchy benefits men quite significantly, it's understandable that when it comes to them losing benefits they become reluctant - it's to be expected.
P.p.s Genuinely coming from a good place, so please be constructive with criticism! Also, was joking in 1st paragraph, just in case...