Annoyed about this birth announcement

[KickAssAngel]

Someone at work is currently on paternity leave. We all sent a card and a gift, and he thanked us. It's the second child.

In his thank-you, the Dad gave a brief description of the birth & how the family are doing.

It contained the line "we went in to labor"

It has really annoyed me. Probably because he's done other things that annoy me, too. But since when did men go into labor. I'm sure he was there, being as involved and caring as possible (this isn't sarcasm, he would have been very kind & supportive to his wife). But I'm equally sure that he didn't get one labor pain or have to push for even a little bit.

KissAss ha ha ha ...you are bang on the money.

today at the 20 week scan he (I must stress, jokingly) congratulated himself on a job done well so far. WE will both attend labour, ONE of us will be in labour .... that said, one of us will have to humour my vileness and had suffered my moods quirks ..... poor fella

gahhhh KICKASS. Not KissASS.... bloody autocorrect trying to start a war!!!!!!!!

My DH was totally exhausted by the birth too. So much so that during his paternity leave he had to go out A LOT with all his friends and celebrate. Then he had to have a lie in as the baby had woken him during the night and disturbed his sleep. ( I didn't see much evidence of his interrupted sleep mind you....)

'I' am pregnant. But 'we ' are having a baby (if you don't take having in the literal sense of giving birth). It's so annoying I agree. And just incorrect

Just ask him to show what HE produced after the labour

thepeopleschamp and gardencentregroupie absolutely SPOT ON.

What garden centre said

I suspect he's going to be even more annoying when he comes back from paternity leave. Please come back and share his little gems with us

Perhaps he'll have cracked nipples from BF

I find a lot of American men do this. 'We are pregnant/in labour/breastfeeding'.

at our nipples are very sore at the moment

As an aside, it drives me mad when people use the plural to mean 'you' to try and 'soften' a nag: "Have we posted the letter yet?" YOU MEAN ME, YOU ANNOYING MAN.

Gardencentre
Funniest post ever.......

Yanbu at all. Sounds ridiculous attention seeking

I know someone just like this. He is a tool of epic proportions.

Garden do you run a clinic I can refer him to?

Oh cringe do men really say this? Reminiscent of We are a Grandmother. Garden v amooosing. Hope when his wife describes it, she calls it 'Our ball sac'

Ugh! I am so with you! WE are pregnant- wow! Really? Both of you at the same time??? You should call the press - you could sell your story for thousands!!

I'm probably just bitter and jaded as I hated being pregnant- never had the wonderful glow etc - just the aches and pains and moods.

It's a very American thing and very annoying.

And we seem to be adopting so much of the schmaltzy American stuff to do with pregnancy and birth - baby showers, gender reveals (my friend did the fucking cake thing) etc. I find it all a bit bleurgh.

Depends whether you are a team or not.

ARGH that is a million times worse than we are pregnant, unless he was kicked in the ball sac every time she had a contraction and they did an episiotomy on his arsehole.

This is now going down as one of my favourite quotes on MN. Brilliant.

18 years ago when i was pregnant with our first child my (now ex) husband came to the doctor with me and said "we are pregnant". I felt really uncomfortable with it, but the female doctor loved it and went on about how it was a pleasure to see a man so involved in the whole process.

My husband is now my ex because he was super controlling. He controlled what I ate while pregnant and how i gave birth then went on to control the children. I wish i had taken note of that one word "we" because it meant he felt he owned that baby and me.

I was unlucky with my NCT group in a number of ways. One of them was when a couple came in to share their experience of birth and the bloke did absolutely all the talking. And he wasn't telling us about what "she" did, it was "we" this and "we" that all the way through.

My DH was so, so angry. Kept spluttering "wanker" all the way home. He never forgot who was having the baby I'm glad to say.

Depends whether you are a team or not. If he was thinking they were in a team he would have given credit where credit was due. Because that's what team mates do. Being part of a team does not involve hijacking someone else's hard work and pain as your own.

He's sounds like one of those blokes where it has to be all about him tbh and your description of him outside this incident doesn't belie that, KickAss.

ball sac every time she had a contraction and they did an episiotomy on his arsehole.

Exactly!!! 😡😡

Anything that gives men a share of the glory of pregnancy / childbirth, really winds me up. I can't stand it when they use the term "we". I also can't stand it when people pat men on the back (after their wife/partner has given birth) and say stuff like "well done" to them. Well done??? For what? Having a shag? What on earth have they done to merit praise? For the same reason I hate the tradition of men "wetting the baby's head" - loads of other men buying the father drinks to show how well he's done, while the baby's mum doesn't get a look in!!!

Wonder if he also has unresolved anger issues because 'their' birth plan didn't work out to.the.letter.

I dunno, I can see why men say this these days.
They are so involved and equal, share maternity leave, 50% of everything.
Maybe he had a bit of tummy ache
I laugh when i hear the "we" comments, but see how we have got here, tbh.

And we seem to be adopting so much of the schmaltzy American stuff to do with pregnancy and birth

I'm pretty sure that the man referred to in *KickAss's post is American, but I really don't think it's necessary to turn this thread into yet another MN American-bashing thread.