Exactly. But then you have to confront the fact that both genders are equally capable of abusing power.
It just seems to me that when feminists say they want to end patriarchy they don't really know what they mean - or at least they have only a vague idea of what the post-patriarchal world will be like.
Of course, a lot of feminist activism is concerned with addressing single issues and making incremental changes: lobbying for parity of pay and reforming the justice system in favour of rape victims. Of course that is all great. Buthen they talk about overthrowing patriarchy with a capital P - the whole of western heterosexual culture basically - that is when things get complicated. Do people think this can be actively brought about, and once it does then rape will all but disappear from the earth and sexual equality will reign? I do think patriarchy will evolve into something new, but only very gradually over centuries as we move further away from the agrarian and industrial economic systems that required male domination. But a culture of sexual objectification will I fear get worse. Feminists fail to understand it in all its complexity; it doesn't merely serve to subjugate women anymore.
Have you heard of the 'attention economy'? Simply stated, as the market system of industrially produced goods is being replaced with a digital economy, human self-concept is changing. In the past it was select goods that were scarce and had the most value: status was conferred by a yacht, Ferrari or designer kitchen. But online everyone is vying for attention. It is what gets the most hits or clicks that has the most market value.
What does this have to do with feminism? Well, think of Kim Kardishian. She was born into enormous wealth and privilege and has no need of any more money. And yet she puts sex tapes and nude shots of herself all over the internet. Why? She doesn't objectify herself for a man - to get a job like a woman in the 1950's does. She does it because it brings her attention, and attention is POWER. Basically, attention economics have come to characterise human social and sexual relations. This is why more and more young people are creating their own amateur porn and pages of selfies: they are responding to a economic imperative to turn themselves into commodities. There is even a website called fuckbook; it is like Facebook but contains pornographic pictures of young people who want to meet up and fuck.
Some people call this post-humanism. Gone is the humanist and judaeo Christian concept of the human being having an inner quality that had no price. In portfolio societies many people just desire to be SEEN. Love will not survive in such a society.
This explains the way many young women with feminist ideals seem conflicted. In one sense they reject objectification as dehumanising; in another they recognise that being wanted and desired in the attention economy is a source of power. In feminised sectors like marketing or PR a successful image is a route to economic success. You may say that men don't have to do this, and that is partly true. But weirdly they are becoming part of it as well, but aren't able to navigate it as well as women. That is why younger women now enjoy greater economic success than men: they are masters of their own image.