I really have a problem with this
I have female anatomy. I have a vagina, vulva, clitoris, labia majora and minora, cervix, cervical os and fornices, uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. Its not a front hole or any euphemism for a neovagina, its a functional organ with its own autoregulation, cyclical hormonal influences, blood supply, microbiological flora, cervical and bartholins glands, rugae and musculature. Its a part of my anatomy and reality just as my heart, lungs and spleen are.
I am pretty lucky in some ways compared to other women in the world who are denied this knowledge, this ability to speak of their sexual organs, understand how they work and have control over when and how I use them. I am incredibly lucky to have never been subjected to infibulation or surgical changes, or any of the myriad vile acts that can beand are carried out on women and girls because of their anatomy (not their internal indentity, sense of gender, but their anatomy.)
I have an education denied to many women because they were born with these organs, I can speak of them calmly, with no sense of disgust or shame, like one would use the terms penis, testes or scrotum. 100 years ago textbooks were censored, even the first female medical students had to fight for the right to learn and dissect both male and female anatomy: knowledge is dangerous! Generations of women lived, had sex, gave birth and died without being able to discuss or define or understand aspects of their anatomy, and shame and embarrassment meant that they did not seek assistance for medical problems. Its one of the things that has led me into the field I work in and in charity work involving education, health and obstetric care in developing nations.
These things matter - we are supposed to avoid discussion of our genitalia with a huge subtext of 'nasty smelly things anyway' heaped in so we do not trigger dysphoric feelings in those unhappy at not being born with our anatomy? We are supposed to use euphymisms to pretend that the phenotypes we are born with in all their complexity are somehow identically equivalent to a surgically created neovagina that requires mechanical dilation and fulfils only one function of the vagina eg allows penetration.
I have always been sympathetic to those who feel trapped by gendered norms in our society, wish they could be different, be socially accepted in not conforming to dress and behavioural expectations, love who they want and live how they want as long as its legal, consensual and non exploitative. I cant however get behind any movement that in the interests of some sense of equality creates an Orwellian double speak where we have to obfuscate and deny any difference: it prevents real issues and problems being described and oddly enough, plu ca change, its women who are being denied the ability to speak of and define their reality.