I of course meant to say, STRONG, positive woman!
Thecatswhiskers I'm so sorry you went through that, I went through an abusive relationship in my teens and also lost my virginity as a result of rape at the age of 14. Similarly - I was also thought if as a strong, vocal and extroverted girl/woman, as a result the shame I felt about both the rape and abusive relationship stopped me from speaking to anyone about it for decades, to be honest part of that was because I didn't want to be perceived as "weak".