Oh god, 3 children under 5 - I'm physically hunched over the way that men do when you mention getting a blow to the penis..
This wifework thing as a source of contempt is hard, because, I just don't want to do it. I don't exactly think it's beneath me, I just really, really don't like it (my sister and her partner do, they are uber-neat the both of them). Yet someone has to.
My MIL comes over on Fridays, cleans the kitchen and does folding and ironing (I would never iron anything) - I've told her that as much as it's appreciated, she doesn't have to do this, and yet she does (she's lovely, it's not a controlling thing.. well.. it is a little bit, but only in an adorable, kindly meant way) - DP doesn't feel ashamed at all, but I run around like a headless chicken in the morning before work so she doesn't think we're complete slobs.
Mine makes no sense either, but what I want to say is, that after the recent salary thread, I'm even more wound up that no economic value is put on women staying at home (even though, if they did, then that value would almost certainly boost us up above men in the earning stakes - the nannying alone is more than the average salary, let alone the cleaning and PAing)