Does anyone have strategies for dealing with this? For example, I'm shopping with my dd and she whines. Shopkeeper says, "but girls are meant to love shopping". Comments about little girls "making eyes", "flirting" etc. There is one particular old bloke on the counter at my local supermarket. Every time we're there he makes a comment. The latest one was in relation to my dd playing with some coins: "all you women are the same, you all like shiny things" (like magpies?!)
He just thinks he's making small-talk. He doesn't mean to be rude or belittling, although that's how it feels to me. I've tried just smiling blandly, but that makes me feel like I'm agreeing. How can I challenge this without ruining the atmosphere?