Envelopes upon which I become my husband

[plantsitter]

Raaaaaagh! How do I politely tell people not to address me as Mrs Dh's initial Dh's surname on Xmas cards? Elderly relatives I wasn't bothering with but my bloody cousin has just done it. I have kept my own name but even if I hadn't I would want my own bloody initial on there! Would it be wrong to send out special cards announcing my title as Ms Plant Sitter?? Otherwise how does one let it be known it pisses one off?

As name has said, for those who care about "the way things are done" - the bible of such stuff is Debretts and it suggests using the form of address preferred by the recipient.

Rosy, I kept my name. But if I had changed it, my name would be Yonic Smith. Everyone would call me Yonic. No one would call me John. And yet on cards people write mr and mrs john smith. No one writes "esquire" anymore, why hasn't this other written tradition vanished.

I didn't change my name and use Dr as title and so far I have received two cards addressed as Mr and Mrs DHfirstname DHsecondname. Elderly relatives. I shredded the envelops.

There's an unopened Christmas card on the kitchen table (I recognise the handwriting so know who it's from). It's going in the recycling because it's addressed to Mr and Mrs His initial, His surname. They are my relatives.
Also just got an invoice addressed to the same. It has been handed over to DH to open. I told them my name but they have ignored this information.
It is very annoying!