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Rape culture in action. Massive Trigger Warning

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scallopsrgreat · 21/11/2014 22:19

Warning: There is a brutal rape described in the opening paragraphs. So please self-care.

The article is from RollingStone and is about the systematic erasure and cover-up of womens rape and sexual assault experiences at the University of Virginia. It is quite long but also very detailed.

From 'friends' to officials these women are encouraged to forget. They are paralysed by lack of information, informed choices and support even from those who are seemingly trying to help.

The article really doesn't pull any punches and describes really well how women's experiences are minimised. It also shows how rapists aren't monsters. They live and function (sometimes even heroically) in the community. It shows how they do plan their rapes (sometimes quite chillingly). How they feel entitled to rape these women and how they don't see it as a big deal. They don't expect to get caught. They may not even see it as rape or simply just don't care.

Just in case anyone thinks women aren't oppressed. Or feminism has gone too far. Or rape culture doesn't exist.

It's so frightening.

I also think it should be highlighted and the University of Virginia named. Because they have gone to great lengths to silence the voices of these women over decades.

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YonicSleighdriver · 27/12/2014 20:40

I'm so sorry, Beyond Flowers

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BeyondTheTreelights · 28/12/2014 11:20

I'm okay yonic, it was another lifetime ago and my drink was spiked. I only remember flashes of it.

HQ, is there a way to preemptively ban aqui4a, aqui5a, aqui6a and so on...? Although it is kind of nice to 'know' who a pbp is when they turn up

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Namechangeyetagaintohide · 14/01/2015 16:07

I'm sorry I'm late to this and am confused about the article. It's prefaced with a letter which talks about discrepancies and how they abided by Jackies request not to contact the other parties.

Are they saying they don't believe her account now ?

It goes on to say :
In trying to be sensitive to the unfair shame and humiliation many women feel after a sexual assault, we made a judgment – the kind of judgment reporters and editors make every day. We should have not made this agreement with Jackie and we should have worked harder to convince her that the truth would have been better served by getting the other side of the story. These mistakes are on Rolling Stone, not on jackie

Are they saying that they let her down by not giving a full report and therefore allowing others to sow seeds of doubt or something like that ?

scallopsrgreat · 14/01/2015 19:09

They are now saying (when I posted the article the letter wasn't there) that they don't believe her because they spoke to a man who said it couldn't have happened for x, y, z reasons. Imagine my surprise that they believe a man over a woman when it comes to rape. Because men never lie about raping women except all the time.

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FiveLittlePeas · 14/01/2015 19:21

I will not read this, I cannot. I was raped once in a wedding, in a distant town, where nobody knew me. It was rape because I said "no".

FiveLittlePeas · 14/01/2015 19:27

I didnt do anything though. I never told anyone, except anonimmously, like this. It was not "as bad as it could have been", but I did feel guitly about it.

Namechangeyetagaintohide · 14/01/2015 19:41

Oh. Aside from that though it was very informative. Sigh. Sad

YonicSleighdriver · 14/01/2015 19:43

So sorry five littlepeas

We believe you Flowers

scallopsrgreat · 14/01/2015 20:09

Oh FiveLittlePeas I'm so sorry Flowers

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