Rules for dating my son

[cato75]

I've just seen a horrible post on my Facebook. As a mother to two girls this has made me feel really angry.

Rules for dating my son
He is not your ATM
If you dress like a stripper I will make you go away
I brought him up as a gentleman, you had best be a lady

Various other nasties about 'tricking my son into putting a ring on your finger'.

I know this is just facebook rubbish. Why would anyone spread this rubbish?

Rules for dating my son

I brought him up to treat people with respect. If he doesn't treat you with respect, I will kick his arse.

I think it's clear that her body her rules, applies to her rules about her body.

The reason it's not "his body, his rules" is because it doesn't even need saying - it's the norm. It's not under discussion, mainstream society doesn't assume men don't have the right to set boundaries about their bodies.

Rules for dating my children

I don't get to set rules for dating my children.

But I hope I have brought them up to respect other people, their hopes, dreams and boundaries. If he/she does that, and so do you, we'll all be dandy.

A friend of mine posted this a while ago: goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/brand-dear-daughter-i-hope-you-have-awesome-sex/

Thank Jeebus, a dad of daughters who actually gets it.

I brought him up to treat people with respect. If he doesn't treat you with respect, I will kick his arse.

That's pretty much what I said word for word to DS1 when he told me he had proposed to DIL :)